Ridicule is THE MOST BRAINLESS THING EVER

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I've learned that sheer IGNORING is the best solution to those who seek to ridicule.

We've supposedly never interacted before on here, but you really sound like someone with an axe to grind against me.

uh ok. I point out how avoiding ridicule isn't always an option, you respond by inferring I'm missing the point while missing my point yourself then progress to me having an axe to grind?

What I wanted to say to everyone, if anyone ridicules you, please don't assume that it means you're doing anything wrong. It probably just means that the person who is treating you that way has a real problem with themselves, and it's not about you at all. So don't be like me and start thinking that you can change your behavior to somehow gain this person's respect or avoid being treated that way

uh ok. I point out how avoiding ridicule isn't always an option, you respond by inferring I'm missing the point while missing my point yourself then progress to me having an axe to grind?

Actually, you provided unsolicited advice. That's the issue.

When someone starts a post with something like "I hope this helps somebody," that means they're sharing not asking.

If upon reading such a post, you feel driven to post suggestions to prove that people don't have a right to post a helpful thread in a public forum without getting unsolicited advice in response, for reasons that may include demonstrating that said forum isn't an "echo-chamber" as you put it, that's a different issue.

Like pets, he loved to poison peoples dogs, or pick on their children.

The point is that some people will not stop until they find a way to inflict pain, and figure out which sensitive scar to poke at for their entertainment.

dianthus: sorry if I came off as belligerent or obnoxious.

Oh wow Amity, that is sick. That's way beyond ridicule, it's downright sadistic.

My ex would literally tell people that they were providing him "entertainment" while he ridiculed them.

Ridicule is malicious. It also says more about the person doing it than the person being subjected to it.

Yes, it is a product of some aggressive memes that are tied to hierarchies.
If there were no hierarchy that required sorting/stratifying of individuals, then people would have little incentive to engage in ridicule.

I've just been figuring this out lately and hope it helps someone.

I'm very sensitive to ridicule. I realized my sensitivity to it has gotten so bad in the last few years, that I now feel like I'm continually trying to avoid being ridiculed. Like trying really hard to not to make any little mistakes or flub anything, to hide anything weird or unusual about myself, and to avoid showing any real vulnerability or weakness around people who might laugh at it.

It's like I thought if only I could do everything the right way, no one would ever have the opportunity to ridicule me again. But in reality? People can ridicule ANYTHING. All it takes for instance is, repeating what someone said in a funny voice. Or imitating a gesture in an exaggerated way. Or simply reacting in mock astonishment to something. It doesn't take any special thought or wit or cleverness to do this. All it takes it the intent to belittle someone.

And the fact that this happens, doesn't mean that the person who is being ridiculed actually did anything worthy of being ridiculed. That's what is being implied by the person doing the ridiculing, but it's not true. They (or you, or I) may have done something that is perfectly respectable. In fact what people find ridiculous in one situation or culture, may be highly valued in another.

What I wanted to say to everyone, if anyone ridicules you, please don't assume that it means you're doing anything wrong. It probably just means that the person who is treating you that way has a real problem with themselves, and it's not about you at all. So don't be like me and start thinking that you can change your behavior to somehow gain this person's respect or avoid being treated that way.