Do you have any idea what people think about you?

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Mostly no. Which is not surprising as it is a core trait.

I've spent a lifetime trying to keep my awkwardness and weirdness from showing -- and I've been pretty successful. Most people will see me as pretty normal when they first meet me. Once they get to know me, of course, the true me comes out. If they accept that, I've found a friend for life.

People seem to like me well enough for small talk, but extremely few like me well enough to really get to know me. I don't know why.

I don't see why, Nerdygirl. You have lots of good ideas in your head.

The feeling I get is that I'm either too negative, too positive, too sincere, too friendly, too restrained, too weird, too different, too confusing, too much or too little.

If I could be normal I probably would be. But I don't know how to be normal. I can't be what other people want me to be.

I hear the words "aloof" and "sweet" almost universally, for what it is worth.

However, I am really trying to get past thinking like this. It stresses me out and makes me act submissively and it's not even real, in a sense - there is no uniform authoritative external opinion of me, only what each individual person I know thinks of me and what I think of myself - and what I think of myself is based on my abilities, not appearance or personality traits. I'm different things to different people because they are different people with their own perspectives. I've had people tell me something they think about me and then someone else later says the exact opposite.

If someone has input about my actions or anything that can be looked at from a moral standpoint, I would want to hear it. But when someone makes a negative comment about my appearance or personality (ie my voice) - that is not going to help me get anything done or be a better person - I don't need to hear it at all and I certainly won't want to be around them any more, my respect for them starts dropping like a rock right then and there.

No, not really. Some people tell me what they think of me: who knows if they're telling the truth, though. Not I.

It's like another poster said, though. It's just as well I don't know, because judging from how they mostly shun me in one way or another, it's likely to be negative. Could be hurtful.

No, I don't care what they think, that's really their business.

Stupid. That's how most people see me.

Well, an old friend (who I have known for > 30 years, since high school) said that I reminded him a lot of Sheldon (on Big Bang Theory). And, whenever I see him (about once every 3 months), he refers to me as "Shelly".

As I have written before, I would consider it a compliment, if I was half as smart as the character. But, I am nowhere near close. So, clearly, he is calling me “Shelly” because I share many of his OCPD characteristics.

Behind my back, apparently people who don't really know me think I'm either utterly crazy or just weird. The nice things I've heard that people say about me are that I'm smart, sweet, or just shy. I think most people like me, but just feel a bit bad for me because of my obvious social deficits.

I have no idea what people think of me unless they tell me.
Some people tell me I'm funny. When I was in high school, people sometimes told me I was weird.

Most people share the common thought of me as an anti social person