Which one(s) of your eccentric habits annoy NTs the most?

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Probably my incessant need to explore everything about a particular interest (such as right now I've been going on about equality and being against everyone who thinks bullying anyone is ok) and right this very moment I have someone trying to tell me to drop it for some reason but I keep noticing people don't seem to understand what I'm trying to say, they read too much into it or something.
I manage to tick people off with this all the time...

Not looking at people when they talk to me, my 1st teacher thought I was deaf, once she realised I wasn't she would punish me for being rude instead. I soon learned to make eye contact but I still find it harder to remember what people have said if I'm looking at them when they say it.

Outside of my stims like rocking and making noises, probably me being evasive and non responsive.

Some people think when they meet me for the first time that I'm deaf or blind or both.

When I make mountains out of molehills and start going on stupid verbal tangents.

This one^ is probably what annoys people most often, but to be fair I have other traits that are probably more annoying.

A more annoying habit that I have - for those unfortunate souls who get past my quietness - is that I constantly look at everything in terms of how it could be improved upon, and complain vociferously about how wrong it is (the way parking lots are designed, the poor timing of traffic lights, the turning lanes that are too short so the cars spill out into the main road, the way store clerks behave, the way the grocery stores are all laid out wrong and don't carry the right products, the poor quality control of almost every manufacturer in the world which just seems to get worse and worse so now it's impossible to buy anything without it having something wrong with it, etc. etc. etc.) I try to just take a lot of consumer surveys to get it out of my system, but then I want to complain about how the surveys are poorly designed. *sigh* I can see how this might become tiresome to people.

Little to no talking. In some instances looking at them because I'm in public and I can only stare at my feet for so long.

My loud voice. The problem is... I don't hear the pitch of my voice. I can't determine how loud it is because to me, it sounds perfectly normal. Yet to others, it is very loud. Once, I had explained this to a life skills teacher of mine, and she called me a liar. >____>

Also, the fact that I can't handle lines. People don't understand this, and it seems to annoy them when I talk about it or ask for accommodation for it. They never give me any kind of help or anything for this. It's like they don't understand how hard it is for me.

My family usually hates it when I bite my nails or I don't look at them when they're talking.

Unconventional body language, executive dysfunction

I think it's my complete incompetence at "small talk". I recently had a heated discussion with one of my oldest friends about it.

I have so many , it's almost pointless to name one or two only.

I stimm quite a lot in public (because I have to) ,
I don't feel comfortable around people (which I see mostly as scary apes always at the mercy of the next crazy thought they get in their heads and mete out their insanity upon you), which is why I prefer to be alone, and be far away from people as possible.

The stims I have that NTs violently attack me for (much of the time, you better believe it), are:
humming (soothes me) , rocking back and forth, tapping hard on surfaces with my fingers (I love hollow plastic surfaces the most, wood is good too), whistle tunes constantly to myself (this also calms me), and (how do I explain this stim....) I put a finger (usually my index or pinky finger) up and line my eye up with the edge or the middle of an object that I see (out there , in the real world). This stim makes me feel safe, and I feel the stim mostly in my eye, and the satisfaction that I hit the edge, corner, or center of the object accurately. I know, ... It's kinda "out there".
I almost got into many serious fights with as*holes, rednecks and racist blacks because they usually interpret my hand-eye-object stim as a gang sign, a challenge to them, or a kind of a "f**k you" hand signal. And usually this threat of altercation usually happens when I don't realize the person is there, or even looking at me.

So needless to say, my hand-eye stim (because I have to raise my hand up to my face to do it) causes me great anxiety and fear (when I'm in public), because the truth is: humans are extraordinarily violent and aggressive, and if you're autistic and you're out there in public and you're stimming and some NT redneck or negro thug gets the wrong "signal" from you, even if you're not looking at him, you might as well start digging your own grave, or at least apply for disability now, because you're going to get all your teeth and brains knocked out of you.

If you think I'm exaggerating, I live in a very "culturally diverse" area (liberal progressive term), and there are a lot of gangs in my area, poor people, thugs, and generally unsavory people, and I've been SOOOOOO lucky, because there's a handful of times when these low lifes got the wrong signal and basically were tooth & nail out to kill me.
A group of rednecks were even following me through the neighborhood, taking down my license plate number, and threatening me , throwing beer bottles at my car :< . All because I stimmed at a traffic light.

So now you know why I don't like most people.

People are violent. They really are just insane apes, that think they're masters of the universe.

Interesting thread.

- My voice can be annoying.
- Sometimes I do things that annoy NTs like stacking things, arranging things stuff like that and then they'll yell at me.
- I tap my foot on the ground when I am overwhelmed.
- I tap pencils on a surface when I am overwhelmed.
- I slap my hand sometimes when I am overwhelmed.
- I talk constantly about things.
- My grandmother doesn't like it when I don't make eye contact.
- Worrying about bacteria.

Last edited by Rudin on 19 Aug 2015, 1:38 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You can always count on me for saying the wrong things which I end up having to apologize for later.

Also, the way I refer to myself in the 3rd person while speaking drives people nuts.

Also, never satisfied with a simple answer, I prod and prod for more clarity till people yell at me or just turn away.

I suspect I annoy people with not getting things and they need to be more clear and explicit with their instructions and not contradict themselves and me asking too many questions and being too curious.

Stimming and the fact that I can go on and on about something I'm passionate about and can't hold a conversation about something I don't care about. Oh, and I sometimes will walk away from people in the middle of a conversation without saying "Bye " or whatever.

Playing with knifes.