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Apple_in_my_Eye
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05 Jun 2015, 7:37 pm

biostructure wrote:
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I think meltdowns are tolerated more in kids than in adult men, adult women tolerated even less, but I don't think people consider them ok for kids, more something they should be patient until the child grows out of.


I disagree about the gender difference here--I think people fear meltdowns more in adult men than in adult women (and probably more in boys than in girls, though to a lesser degree). Men are usually stronger, and even when they aren't, society fears violence from men more than from women. It doesn't matter if the person having the meltdown is just throwing things at a wall or self-injuring as opposed to taking it out on others--people have a less tolerant reaction to adults than to children in this regard.


Yes, especially if you're a racial minority and/or physically large. A woman might get manhandled by the police if she's upset, but a man is more likely to be killed by them.



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05 Jun 2015, 8:49 pm

rarebit wrote:
Oh, I also meant to say...

There's loads of people (inc. NT's) that use blow outs as a coping / winning strategy!

My 30+ year old neighbour still thinks shouting and giving death threats is the way to get people on side, her favourite comment is "it's not fair."


That kind of reminds me of this story:

http://notalwaysright.com/banana-drama-part-2/43313


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06 Jun 2015, 8:55 pm

People expect adults to be able to control their feelings better and to keep a handle on their emotions, because adults have more life experience than children. That's all I can come up with.


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