Accepting what you missed in life

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[quote="B19] I like being old, the perspective has widened after decades of experience to draw upon, yet in this youth culture, being old is supposed to be an unmitigated disaster! I've never been happier.[/quote]

This is my feeling too. Being old is a vocation in itself, a time of serenity.

This is something I have been struggling with. It's not like I don't have a (almost) full time job but I am F-A-R behind what anyone would have expected at this stage in my life. My income SHOULD be almost double based on my skills and I missed out on the 'College' experience partly due to PTSD-like symptoms due to bullying and partly because I sacrificed a social life to work, work, and work. In the end I still have no friends and am still working the same job that I would have had even without my Degree. It just seems like all my hard work, saving and sacrificing barely did any good. I've taken countless courses, volunteered and taken on many projects but nobody seems to notice.

It would be far easier to accept my position if I was a dropout, drug addict, etc. I could understand (and would have deserved) my lot but what the heck happened to me? Why does nobody see how highly skilled and talented I am? I feel like I have tried everything. What makes it worse is the glib statements I usually hear like "you should consider yourself lucky to have a job at all!" or "there are kids starving to death in Africa." Thanks, I feel a lot better now

It just seems like I am too weird to be normal and too normal to be weird and cannot find my niche.

i dont think i can live with the knowledge i missed out on everything due to this disorder honestly.. every day my mind is dragged down by it.
a lot of opportunities were actually in front of me, but I was too autistic to take them.
I wasted so many years in front of screens due to being not only addicted to them but a shut in which comes back to the autism.
i failed school because i had no motivation because of what autism did to me.. couldnt cope in that environment but also just didnt care and found it incredibly boring.,
seeing the rest of the good years i have left go to waste will be extremely tormenting.. and theres almost no chance of that not happening because of this debilitating disease i have developed.. its sad.. i deserved so much more, everyone does.

I don't find it hard to let go of the things I've missed. I can look back at nearly all of the "normal" experiences that passed me by during my developmental and teenage years, and recognize that I had dodged a hailstorm of bullets by having slipped through the cracks in the floorboards.

As far as adulthood, after taking control and responsibility for the quality of my life and actions, and accepting who I am, and who I can never be; by age 26, I'd already experienced enough to be able to feel I'd lived a full life. Which, in that regard, I recognize I'm ahead of all but one of my elders.

The regrets I have now mostly relate to things I had, but missed the point of having them, until they were gone.

It occurred to me that the same is true at this present moment, there are lots of things that I'm not missing out on, but don't recognize the value of what I do have.

Accepting what I missed out on, for me, comes from valuing what I have here and now, rather than focusing on and perhaps being blinded by past regrets.

If I realize that I'm ruminating, I imagine those thoughts as a cloud that will drift away in the wind and out of sight, if I can allow them to. I don't fight those thoughts/give them any reinforcement, and instead treat them as a reminder, a guide for similar situations in the future.

What missed out? XD

The only thing I 'regret' so far involves something I cannot control; specifically a certain man who left with a white car as I tried to chase it across the street...

And normal life isn't equivalent to good life. What I see in a typical life involves a lot of worries and attempted blissful ignorance, and everything to worry about money, love life, and especially social life regardless how good or bad it turns out.

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I have missed nothing in life.

There is nothing in my past that I would go back and change, if I could.