iliketrees wrote:
My mum, however, has nobody in her family who is autistic. She said although I've been her daughter for 18 years, she doesn't really know or understand me or the way I think.
She was crying telling that to mental health. She wants to understand but she just can't. She tries to find ways in which we're similar, tries to relate to me in any way she can. She's upset and doesn't feel like she's doing enough even though she's trying she just can't understand my mind. It does hurt and I want to help her understand but I don't know how to.
With all that insecurity going on, it´s difficult. It is in danger of becoming far more dramatic, than it ought to be.
I have following suggestions:
...that you perhaps found her text, a material, that could explain to her (without scientific details).
Go through it yourself and find out how you could explain and add to the text.
You need to clarify questions. If the question is blurry, the answer will be messy.
Ask her about incidents, that have made her feel, that she doesn´t understand.
She can´t understand your mind?
You could be curious about her mind. Ask her to explain how she thinks in certain situations. What she is thinking in situation this or that. Then you could compare.
Maybe she has a very intuitive-emtional approach, while you have a logical? That would be classical.
Perhaps it sounds naive, but it could create an entrance.
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