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AegNuddel
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21 Dec 2015, 12:08 am

Amity wrote:
I like giving and getting proper hugs, but not the greeting type thats almost an 'air hug'.

Same here... I have a friend that gives such light hugs it just feels ... creepy.


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21 Dec 2015, 1:14 am

It's so well known at work that I don't like to be hugged that I introduced myself to the new girl and she was quiet for a second then said, "Oh! You're the one that doesn't like to be touched."


THANKS EVERYONE I'm not weird enough as it is...

... but seriously not sarcastically, I want to thank whoever tells them that because it saves a lot of awkwardness.

I'm very sensitive to being touched or hugged by anyone other than family or very close friend. And even with them it's better if I see it coming. When I was training for my current job the lady training me was trying to drive a point home and kept poking me in the shoulder and I was standing facing her with my head turned as far away from her as I could, staring at the ground. Finally she asked if I was listening and I went "I can't FOCUS when you keep TOUCHING ME." and she stopped and apologized.

Luckily we were already pretty good friends by that point.


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21 Dec 2015, 1:23 am

i tend to like hugs, but prefer to know they're coming.



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21 Dec 2015, 1:58 am

AegNuddel wrote:
Amity wrote:
I like giving and getting proper hugs, but not the greeting type thats almost an 'air hug'.

Same here... I have a friend that gives such light hugs it just feels ... creepy.


Ditto that x10. I am the huggiest hacker I can possibly be. I wasn't always this way but frankly as far as greetings go, I'd rather hug than speak.


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