Can you handle friendships?

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Last "friend" I had told me I was his friend and that we "must go out for a drink sometime". So I asked him for a drink and at the end of the night he told me in NT speak not to ask him again.

Friend before that died on his motor bike. I cried for weeks.

Friend before that - well, I moved away and did not know how to keep in touch.

This last few years I am training myself to accept loneliness. I still have 2 accounts with dating sites but ignore people who message me.

Best bet for me is what I've come to call arm's length friendships where I never get very close with them. I simply do not have the skills to read people as well as I need to or know when/how/if to be accomodating. I'm much better at it now than as a kid but I can't see where I could ever be consistently good at it on long term basis.

I can but it's hard for me to find friends.

Similar to most of you I also have trouble maintaining friendships. I remember a friend of mine since high school till now(college ) was always telling me that true friends must stick together and she meant it literally. So there came a point when I got choked and made a space because I need a lot of time on my own and not be treated like a puppet. In fact she's also a suspected aspie, but more of an extrovert one. Oh well, now we're still friends and do understand each other better.

In my class, I have only 1 close friend which I come along with whenever I navigate a social event or everyday at school. But still there are times that I don't like to be with her because even though we're close Idk, I just don't know how I can be a good friend to her.

In a certain group, I really find it hard to talk to them because I really don't know what to say, I just think of asking about if they have a certain interest similar to me but at first I might still be aloof.

Idk if relationship probs such as trouble keeping friends can also be related to borderline personality disorder?