I think I've been misdiagnosed as having an ASD

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Well everything on my official report about me is true. I would like to be able to learn how to be with people socially and not just at work. If someone taught me then I could do that. That's all I want really. Then I can be the best I can be.

This might seem simplistic:

But the only way to get better socially is to get yourself in social situations.

Don't push your way in, though. Become a member of a club.

Social ability doesn't happen overnight. You have to make mistakes.

But when you make mistakes, just think about them, and try to figure out a way to do better next time.

When I was younger, I used to act out dialogues in my head. Many times, I would talk to myself out loud when I was alone.

One thing you never do: Never tell anybody that you're "trying to get better socially."

You WILL make mistakes.

The key is to learn from them.

Also: when you're talking to somebody, never just "blow them off" and leave the conversation. Say something like: "I have to go do something, see you later."

The facial and eye expressions test is meant to be an instant recognition thing. Like most things, if you take your time and think about what you're seeing and doing, you might do much better.

Same with supervising. You can read, watch others, think and be a good supervisor, it doesn't mean you are or aren't on the spectrum. If that doesn't make sense, think about all the terrible supervisors out there, most of them not on the spectrum. If you try to listen, think, and treat people with respect and compassion, they might be far happier having you as their boss despite less than the greatest social skills.

What do you mean by disliking touch? You may have a case saying "it's just Sensory Processing Disorder..." but it's probably impossible to tell on your end if you just have really mild autism. I'd wait for bio-marker based testing to be available, that could change our understanding of the Autism Spectrum, even if it's just going to mean you have the mildest subtype of autism ever.

I think I am one of the really milder cases, had a lot of unusual things in childhood. But I don't have issues with touch and have learned to hold eye contact. But still I have little to no interest in other people and I also have "mild"(can't say I know for sure how bad it is) social difficulties.

I don't think people in the British Isles think hugging is a required thing amongst friends--unless the friendship is very close.

To be fair I just think I'm an extreme introvert and I tend to care more about information. I moved around a lot when young because I'm from a military family. I didn't make attachments very often. I learnt that people are largely the same no matter where you go. Thing is I can never really feel emotions as 'normal' people are supposed to. My purpose in my view is to learn and experience things. My purpose isn't to become popular or anything. I don't mind though lol.

I'm not a huggy-huggy type, either. I'm not a particularly "social person". I'm into information more than emotions myself.

It's good to know how to be "social" when necessary, though.

I know people in the British Isles. In fact, my wife's son lives in Southeast London.

He's a doctor. He's not huggy-huggy. He has Aspie traits, though I don't believe he's full-throttle Aspie. He's able to keep friends, though.

And you will be able to, as well, even if you're not into huggy-huggy stuff.

Just don't blow off people when you don't feel like hanging out with them.