what kind of unpredictability scares you the most?

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I'm sorry to hear about your holiday anxiety, that sounds very stressful. Is it anything in particular or just the unfamiliarity itself? I'm trying to think if I struggle adjusting to newness. It's more that I get attached to my environment and don't want to let go of anything...or that i'm very comfortable with sameness. Going somewhere totally new will usually have a strange effect on me though...stranger than it does on others I think. Before I knew I was autistic I used to just think I was "immature" or that I preferred my home like a child.

aye, i have the same issue with the bladder and going to sleep. Whenever people stay over I ask them if I can sleep on the side of the bed closer to the door...lolol. I actually missed my train today on purpose so I could use the customer toilet on the train platform...I think this is like OCD or something.

I am *obsessed* with cancer. I used to get checked so many times! I still have nightmares about it. I worry about it all the time! Breast cancer mainly as I know two people who had it.

Death. The day before someone unexpectedly dies, they're just like me; just going about their business with no idea when it's going to stop. Then death seems to pick people off at random, and I wonder if I could be next.

Driving. I have a driving phobia. I'm terrified of getting in a wreck, someone earlier said other drivers' unpredictability scared them. I feel the same.

Not having a plan.
If I have an assignment I want to know when it is, how I get there and what is going to happen. I can't understand people who just say "let's meet somewhere someday" and then complain that "we never meet".

Situations that are unstable/unplanned/unpredictable in of itself.

Work terrifies me, I have no say/control over what happens. Who is going to approach me.. how other people are going to react.. I also never know when I'm going to get into trouble, when I'm going to be asked to do something I can't.. The number of variables to attempt to calculate.. impossible to keep up with, but I still try.

It is very stressful.

That is why I tend to not go outside and interact with others unless I need to, and do things that involve others.. I can't tell what's going to happen. That generally scares/stresses me out the most.

I have this same problem with work. Not sure if it is as severe as your anxiety but it definitely made me tense the entire time. I used to get panic attacks almost every morning on the way to work to the point of calling in sick because I couldn't take the panic attacks anymore...i recovered a little with CBT though and didn't quit my job!

Life. Life is unpredictable = life scares me.

Everytime someone wants to change my plans, my schemes, whatever I'm planning no matter what it is.

People are unpredictable, too. People scare me for this reason.

The phone ringing. Someone interrupting me while I'm writing. Emails that contain bad news. Sudden jobs that need doing that upset my plans. Unexpected illness.
Life.

I have severe anxiety, started getting really bad when things started to slowly go down hill.. I eventually started having panic attacks at work because I was so unstable (not that I'm any more stable that before... but the medications seem to give me that security net..), eventually they became so often.. I had to go to crisis and I got a therapist and they put me in a daytime hospitalization program where they taught us the basics of DBT, CBT, etc. It helped, it honestly did, but my lack of ability in certain areas of multiple things just made it difficult for me to understand everything in that short ten days.. (I don't think I can understand CBT even if I studied it extensively, there is something about it that I can't connect with. I'm not very emotionally minded, so I generally don't have much to say on the 'how does that sentence make you feel' part of it....)

But I hate change, I hate uncertainty. Probably the only things I actually do hate.
But I do acknowledge that I do need to take it in stride, but that doesn't mean I have to like it I suppose.

plans changing

Dealing with any authority figure (my boss, a cop, a doctor) because I was hurt by my dad a lot. He could be pretty damned scary.

Calling people on the phone, because I stutter or get the words mixed up when I'm nervous. I sometimes have to make my wife order takeout or call a taxi.

Unpredictability of my surroundings. I like to carefully scout my surroundings, learn every in and out of the area I will visit and memorize the routes that will take me back to familiar territory. That is also why I am not quite fond of travelling long distances.

All of the above and anything else that I have had a negative experience with. Interpersonal interaction that might lead to conflict is a huge one. Random events that interfere with daily life such as car not starting. Health issues mental and physical. And just anything that goes wrong in general such as accidents and other problems that just happen.
I easily get surprised and shut down and not know what to do when I encounter a unplanned problem. The less familiar the problem is to anything that I have experienced the scarier. One of my biggest ones is making any kind of a mistake and not knowing how to fix it. I don't know how big a mistake is until I know how to fix it so it looks gigantic until I know how to fix it.
I also don't handle conflict well, it makes me feel helpless and I never know what to say or do to get through it. I had past experiences with unreasonable people that made conflict seemingly impossible to resolve so now I avoid it as much as possible because I don't know how to resolve it. I get so nervous with it that I end up with a resting b***h face which in itself may have led to the other person escalating leading me to feeling scared and incompetent in my ability to handle conflict. From my perspective people have just unexpectedly escalated and I have really bad startle reflexes that involve flouncing, swearing, and screaming which escalates the situation more.
I also get nervous when I get turned around while driving, because I once had a really bad experience with wrecking a company vehicle when I took a wrong turn into a tight space with a big pickup truck. Now I automatically get scared and angry when I have to go around the block because I am afraid of running into something that I might not know how to handle well, even though I drive a small car and had never had a problem with it like I did the pick up.
I think that fear itself being made real by experiences has made unpredictability of life in general scary in my case. I don't do as much as I am capable of because the more I do the more that could go wrong.

As a person with anxiety, quite a lot of unpredictability scares me. Here's what scares me:-

Cancer and other life-threatening illnesses
Although I don't abuse my body, I still know that the fittest and healthiest of people can develop cancer, and it scares me when some cancers have no or very slight symptoms that you don't recognize until it's too late. Also other life-threatening illnesses can just happen, out of the blue. I could wake up severely ill with meningitis tomorrow. I've heard how that can just hit you overnight.

Nuclear war
Sometimes when I'm just doing a daily task, or laying awake at night, I suddenly worry about what the Russian government or the Korean government are up to at this exact moment and how all those nuclear weapons are somewhere all wired up and waiting to be fired one day. I live in fear of it.

Murderers and terrorists
I live in a city that has a high rate for crime, and there has been a serial killer running amok before, but luckily they caught him and he is now locked up. But I do hear of so many murders in the news, that I worry that I might be a murder victim and get stabbed to death in the street. Terrorists are another worry. They go months without blowing anyone up, then they suddenly strike when no-one expects it, and people get killed while the survivors experience such a traumatic event, not to mention all the grieving families of the lost ones.

Losing loved ones
This is unfortunately inevitable, unless I die first. I panic about my mum dying, or my dad, or my boyfriend, or literally anyone I love. I'm even feeling extremely depressed at the thought of my cat dying.

Becoming homeless
This frightens me, even though it is more likely to happen when I'm old and have lost most of my family and boyfriend (as he's older than me). But a lot could happen between now and then, like I might win the lottery or labour might get voted back in or whatever, so I'll try not to worry about that too much. But the thought of being turfed out of my safety zone (my home) and forced to live on the streets just because I can't afford to pay the bills and rent because I struggle to find work suitable for an old lady, will be horrific. Hearing people say that my generation won't get a pension does panic me, and this country doesn't allow you to have financial support if you can walk, talk and dress yourself.

Visiting doctors/hospitals/dentists etc.

Also crowds of people. I tend to be concerned incase they all suddenly think at the same time to attack me. I had this in college where the entire class turned against me. It was as if all their brains were suddenly connected.