People laughing when you explain your AS

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Yep.

Just now in my other post I mentioned by brother. For years I had problems. I was undiagnosed. I struggled with a lot of things, and sometimes explaining them to family was difficult. I didn't even know what was wrong. I battled many situations, feelings and emotions helpless because I didn't know what was wrong with me. But during this time, my brothers were unsupported. They just thought I was an "over-thinker", an "obsessive" or a "hypochondriac".

When I was diagnosed with Aspergers, they wasn't at all interested. They still wasn't any more supportive. And they still don't understand a thing. I dare raise a conversation about it around them. The room would fill with laughter, or some sarcastic comment.

I had forgotten the others passed away. I remember briefly hearing about it when one of them passed from some kind of illness or something and I just remembered that after reading your post just now because now I remember that I was sad when I heard the news. But now the memories are coming back and I remember clearly when the brothers passed.

I also have trouble with time passage. For example, if I hear a beetles song that I like now, I won't remember that they are mostly gone. I still, in my mind, will think of them as all alive because I am hearing their song. People like Mozart or Brahms I won't think of them that way because I did not know them alive. But sometimes it takes me a moment to remember or it takes someone reminding me that some people are gone or for some reason I don't always remember that they are. I find myself doing that with relatives that I was close to as well. Sometimes I still think I can call my uncle on the phone and that he will pick up. I don't always remember that he can't now. I don't know why that happens to me but it does. It sometimes feels like time does not really pass for me. I don't live in the past, that's different, I just don't always understand that someone might no longer be here or that they may have changed. I understand the concepts of death and change, I just don't always register them properly.

That happens with events too. Sometimes I have to ask people, did this certain thing that I am feeling happen now or did it happen before? I have to be careful whom I ask that to. I can only ask my husband or brother or I risk seriously mean responses. Sometimes the emotions from things of the past will come back so that I can continue to process them since I process emotional things in small pieces all strung out over time. So if a bit of something comes back to be processed, if it comes really strong I can get confused as to whether it is currently happening or if the actual event happened before and I am just processing more about it currently.

I was temped to feel like an idiot again for not remembering but I just felt like one in another thread a minute ago because I did not pay attention to the date on the post I responded to and commented as if the post had just been posted when it fact it was years old. So I figured that idiot moment was bad enough. I might have to just forgive myself for this one.

Well, yesterday my girlfriend said to me: "Babe, what's CO2 it's Carbon Dioxide right?", I reply "No it's oxygen". She replies "Oh, what's the CO2 stand for?", and I reply "1 carbon 2 oxyge.....". I didn't quite finish the word before I realized what I had done.

Worst thing is, we're super competitive. We like to catch each other out. So the painful emotions of making myself an idiot were quadrupled. lol

Yeah. I have plenty of those kinds of moments too! It's all good.

Perception is reality.

People perceive the high pitched voice as something beyond that guy's control and thus don't make fun of it unless they're real a-holes.

With ASD social blunders, people don't recognize them as ASD symptoms. They just simply see them as social blunders by someone who appears "clueless" to things that should be completely OBVIOUS to most people, and thus it's funny to them. They're not intending to be offensive or rude in their laughter. It's completely natural for people to find those sorts of things funny.