I do experience what you've expressed, although, I wish I could say that I was ALWAYS like this. Instead, I am the opposite, and it has negatively effected opportunities for me to socialize/engage with others. I inevitably drive people away, embarrass myself, and in turn, become deeply saddened for the loss. I impulsively blurt out my thoughts and feelings without giving any thought to what I am about to say, or the consequences of stating them. In turn, I have ruined potential opportunities to socialize, make lasting friendships with people I find I quite like. I am the sole creator of this, as it is usually 100% due to the way I express myself. I wear my heart on my sleeve, which is a problem in itself, and then when combined with impulsively expressing myself, all of the potential good, goes out the window and I feel horrible, afterwards. I feel bad for the other person, embarrassed and humiliated, a sense of loss and deeply saddened. I've just recently disengaged the PM feature on my WP account, to spare people from having to experience the potential negative consequences of the way I engage with people. I would like to be the opposite. I would much prefer to become speechless or non-verbal, over the aforementioned. That is for sure. I am not a very talkative person, in general/in person, which perhaps does not make any sense. I hope it is acceptable that I participated in this thread and, that, something I've mentioned is applicable to the discussion, in some way, despite the fact that I am more often than not, the extreme opposite of what you are speaking of.
Earthling wrote:
Of course, everyone has some bad moments when they simply are not in the mood to talk to someone. However...
You're talking with someone, and then you don't know what to say.
It's awkward/boring, so you'd prefer to just leave it at that and not reply. No "bye", no "ok, gotta go"... just, nothing.
Or you're being talked to, you KNOW a good answer, but you don't say it, because you feel weird about it, be it due to anxiety or just not wanting to open your mouth.
Can you relate?
Experiences?
Comments?
04 Nov 2015, 12:41 am
