Kitty4670 wrote:
I don't like celebrating Christmas anymore, I used to love Christmas as a child, it was my fave holiday. Now, I don't want to decorate Christmas trees & go to see my family for Christmas. They spend 6-8 hours celebrating, is that normal? I always get bored when I'm at my grandmother's house. Now that I'm in my 40s, I don't do things like I did before. I wish I can move far far away so I can't come back for the holidays.
Since everyone in the family we made is either on the spectrum or has most of the same issues (sensory, OCD, nvld, motor skills, etc), when we visit my family of origin or that of my spouse we now do it on our terms, keeping in mind all of our limitations. It's actually quite nice now, especially since the gift giving is only for the kids. We stay maybe 3-4 hours and that includes dinner.
Until we reached the point of understanding where we realized we *had* to do holidays that way or not at all, they were their own little circle of Hell. There's nothing wrong with living as you need to to be comfortable in your own life, especially if you *explain* your reasons to the people it might also affect.
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