Do you acknowledge or adhere to taboos?

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I have seen plenty of women eating alone at restaurants. My very instinct is to think they are hungry, likely on a lunch or supper break from work. Never known anyone to consider it taboo to eat alone.

In NYC, ladies eat alone all the time.

It would taboo to approach one while she's eating. I wouldn't do it.

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I've never heard of that 'rule' or really observed people following it, granted there are certain circles of people where casual conversation of sex might offend/disturb them but I don't think that's really all of america in general.

No a taboo is something that's deemed as very bad or something people just should not take part in like incest, bestiality, murder or cannibalism for instance. Eating alone at a restaurant may be a little odd but its far from a taboo.

Yes, this. It's not taboo to eat alone. It's taboo to eat your children.

I sometimes see girls my age eating alone in the campus cafes but that's about it.



I live in the Southern US. In college I was approached a few times when I was alone by random girls who wanted to talk, not hit on me. I didn't mind but I thought it was something I'd never do. I guess I look lonely or something lol.




Well in that case I do not partake in any taboos. Maybe odd behaviors though.

I don't think so. I do this aaallll the time. Not to high class restaurants but fast food places and pubs. Nobody cares though.

Dining in a classy restaurant alone is a bit taboo. Not really so for diners, or fast food.

The lines "a table for one...its a lonesome town alright..." was in some crooner pop song on the non rocknroll stations that mom and dad listened to back in the Sixites when I was kid. It was a metaphor for extreme loneliness.

When I said it was a "taboo," I didn't mean it in the extreme sense of the term. A man won't be struck dead if he goes up to a woman while she's eating alone.

I just meant that it really isn't proper for a man to go up to a woman eating alone. I suppose it's less of a "taboo" for a woman to go up to a woman eating alone.

A woman eating alone probably wants to be alone, and doesn't feel like hanging out with somebody.

It's similar to the library situation. I don't find that women like to be approached in libraries.

Women might be more amenable to converse with somebody during some intellectual activity like a lecture. Or at a sporting event. Or maybe even in the supermarket while shopping.

I'm always sharply aware when my conversations unsettle people, sometimes including me, but I only nix them when I can tell nobody's about to learn anything cool.

Maybe I'm different.

1) I generally eat alone because I don't have anyone else to eat with. Doesn't matter whether I want to be alone or want company ... if there's nobody else but me, and I'm in the mood for a certain kind of food, I'll go to a restaurant alone. If people are offended by my mere presence, oh well. If a waitress judges that I'm a poor tipper just because I'm a single female, then she's got a poor attitude and doesn't judge well. Sometimes I do go with a couple of casual friends.

2) I'm actually used to socializing in libraries. My university was weird ... people hung out and talked so much that they had to put up "Quiet Zone" signs so the few students who actually wanted to study quietly could find a few seats. A group of us formed our own subculture there and had bad pun wars and played harmless pranks. And now I find that there are Star Trek clubs that meet in libraries, or used to, anyways, before they raised the cost of renting the library meeting rooms. So I equate libraries with being a possible place to make friends.

3) At a supermarket while shopping is where I freeze up and get afraid to talk. If I see a neighbor in a grocery aisle, I will literally try to hide really quick in another aisle so the neighbor won't see me. That way, I don't have to get stuck not knowing what to say after "Hi, how are you?"

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