I hate it when I get compliments anyone else feel the same.

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I don't get what's wrong with complimenting people....honestly I don't.

Nothings wrong with it, it should be okay, for some reason it just irks me though. Its got to be low self esteem.

That depends, if it's a nice compliment and appropriate I always thank them but if I feel like it's rude I'll also notify them.. One time someone called me cute at work and I immediately jumped and said "hell no that's disrespectful"..

Mostly I like getting compliments. But I don't like it when a teacher looks at my work and says something about how well I'm doing. That makes me feel embarrassed, like too much attention is being drawn to me.

I don't accept direct compliments well. Compliments directed at me just make me very uncomfortable and sound insincere or unimportant. People who give them get a superficially sincere "thanks" at best. On very rare occasions I'll actually agree when someone praises an accomplishment of mine, but it happens so little that I've advised people before just not to try it.

Now, if I create something (a writing, a painting) or generate an idea and that gets complimented, I love to hear it.

As Feyolkien said, it just makes some people uncomfortable. It's not really even an autistic thing; plenty of "NTs" are the same. For me, I have the mentality that if I do something truly worthy of praise then none will be needed. If I don't, any praise sounds insincere and that makes me uncomfortable.

I usually become very shy and timid if I am complimented.

I usually like them, just as long as it doesn't feel like they are complimenting me because they feel sorry for me.

Because, in my case, I was conditioned into thinking that accepting a complement immediately results in an inflated ego, of which certain people, including my parents, when they were still living, would immediately do everything in their power to force one back into their "shell". Even to this day, I sometimes have issues in receiving a compliment, especially after I do solo vocal work and take everyone by surprise.

I hate it when people tell me thank you. Though that's not exactly a compliment. I just don't believe the compliments. It's not like most of the people who give them are even knowledgable enough to even give compliments based on fact. They're generally an emotional thing so I try to ignore them.

I don't think anyone would like to be showered with compliments.

It ticks me off as well when nothing is genuine.

When I get a genuine compliment I am happy to accept it and can say thank you but do get a little nervous/embarassed.

Meh...compliments do not bother me. But, if it comes from someone I truly respect, then I do feel gratitude that someone I respect acknowledged my efforts. Most times, I have not noticed the compliment though. Been asked a few times why I 'snubbed' someone when they complimented me. I get the eye rolls and such because 'I'm smart enough to not play those games' when I explain that I did not know it was a compliment.

I don't exactly hate compliments, but I have trouble knowing how to respond well to them, getting the balance right between sharing their high opinion of me too strongly and throwing it back in their face. And I'm usually suspicious of compliments that seem contrived or false.

Yes, exactly! For me almost all of them do, though.

I hate it when things are too sugar coated. I get the suspicion that someone is trying to 'handle' me. I don't react well to that.

I mellowed a little when I realised that not all false compliments are designed to manipulate me. Sometimes they're just intended to boost my self-confidence, and the compliment-giver doesn't always expect to be believed literally. It took me a while to get my brain round that. One example is when they say "you'll do fine" - objectively they're stretching the truth, which might seem a rash thing to do, but I suspect it's really shorthand for "I think if you look on the bright side a little more then you'll get a better result." But I still prefer people to just say what they mean.

I got that a long time ago, but my deal is that I still find them annoying even when I believe they're totally sincere. In my head I'm going "Yes, I know. Why are you telling me this?"

I know why they're telling me, but it's still irritating.