Are there any Aspies without motor skill problems?

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I have good motor skills, too. Good balance, good hand/eye coordination, I've played a variety of sports.

i am a good target shooter, but have horrible handwriting. i can dance and swim well, but don't do well with sports using a ball.

I've developed decent fine motor skills over the years by doing art. Still have some troubles with things like pressure and tactile sensation (Not detecting when things are bending or breaking) but fortunately I've also learned how to fix a lot of things. Really bad gross motor skills though.

Played sports when a kid (No football...hated football in school gym classes..those guys really liked to prove how big they were on the little guys....and, well, I had a smart mouth too.... little baseball and soccer) loved to swim and gymnastics. Was not good, but didn't realize how bad I was until I saw a photo of me running (and a few others). Then I got what everybody else was saying. Found that photo and another when I was even younger.
The photo of me running has garnered the following comments from very different people:
1) Wow, your hands and all, kinda faggy (I'm quoting here...sorry)
2) You look like a ladyboy (I asked about that one. She said I was pretty and had 'the posture')
3) Yes, unnatural gate

Hated running for a while (Soccer was short bursts over a protracted period of time if you played zones)....felt like air was moving through my collar bones. Lungs never hurt, but my collar bones killed me. As a kid, the comic book geek in me took over and hoped that I was mutating into something cool. Please don't make fun. That was an actual thought up into my teens. I already felt alien so, was it really that big of a leap?

And the one of me as a young child I was all sway backed and backwards knees. Looked like a slightly cooked noodle. I was always tripping over myself and have virtually no depth perception. Broken bones and other injuries. Certain tile patterns really mess with my eyes and certain patterns on steps (And a very few times, on a flat floor as it gave the illusion of depth change..."Woops, that surface is six inches closer than I thought.") have made my eyes confused and I've fallen. If I stand at a urinal, I get dizzy because the tiles mess with my eyes and I can't tell how far away I am from the wall. I have to touch the wall to find the depth and kill the vertigo. Balance sucks big time. Have to touch walls or rails when doing stairs just to have a touchstone of balance.

Throw something at me something close to straight on and watch me spaz out.
I was the classic case of being completely blind to things but still trying to blend in and failing miserably.

^ you tell good stories. I have no idea what I look like when I run now...But I have video of me as a little kid (maybe 4) and I ran with my hands up like that. Maybe I still do. I've noticed I hold my hands in weird positions a lot anyway. And I tend to hold them up close to myself. I guess it looks better on a female, so I can get away with it.

Thanks I've always been hyper aware of my hands. They are always in my pockets. My hands when I run are all flappy and such. And I am very self conscious about the way I walk too. What also got my ear was when she mentioned my 'low muscle tone'. This was the doctor that mentioned the 'unnatural gait'. Even when I was in shape and much stronger than I looked, I never had any muscle definition at all. While all the guys that did any other sports had nice abs and those cool 'v' shaped backs, I was just a doughy muffin top waisted guy. I just never had that pear shape.

Now, I will be honest, I did like the 'ladyboy' comment as it was a sincere reaction from our neighbor upstairs. She is Chinese and they are blunt and just descriptive. So, if you're called pretty (When younger), just roll with it. How can that ever be a negative?

I came to realize in high school that, if I can somehow manage to get my head out of the clouds long enough to focus on what's right in front of me, I can actually perform decently well at tasks involving motor skills.

Terrible times at doing sports when young, and more terrible with ball plays, balls frightened me into freeze
Don't trow things at me, once someone threw a bottle of beer, which ofcourse I didn't catch and that was quite a nasty accident.
Or dance, when everyone does the same, that used to confuse me into a state of freeze;
I liked punk for that, no (hidden)rules just jumping around (and scaring the discocrowd of the floor).

But that's not motor skill problems, but overload and confusion problems. And being awkward in this social situation.

Yeah, I totally get that. Really spazzes me out.

I had a friend who did the dance thing. She tried to teach me the basic two step. I always wanted to just be able to stand there and do that two step thing with just the feet. Anyway, after about 20 minutes or so, she gave up. I literally could not follow the instructions. When taking martial arts as a kid, I learned to do short cable nunchuks. Took me forever and many, many accidents to learn. But once I got it, it stayed with me. But, oh, the pain. Knocked myself out twice, shins all beat to hell, elbows and underarms from trying to catch the things with my arms and I'm surprised I have kids from 'Those' injuries and even broke out a set of lights inside my room (Even though I was forbade from using them in the house...always had problems with those type of boundaries). But, outside of strength and timing, I can still go out in my backyard now (43 years later) and not bang myself up. Aim is still good. So, keep at it if you love something. When it sticks, it should stay forever....just gets rusty if you don't keep at it.




Could be. I know I was always self conscious, so I am sure that had to have something to do with it. But, even when with a few people that I could be comfortable with, I still had difficulties nlike when my friend tried to show me how to do the two step thingy..

I think it's a problem that can definitely be improved with practice.

I was always terrible at ball sports and was always sidelined at school. I have practiced table tennis after some outdoor tables were installed in the local park a few years back. Not too bad now although I only play with my partner and she is not very co-ordinated either, not sure how I would fair against anyone else.

My handwriting is very poor unless I go really, really slow. I can make very good welds though, but the speed of movement when welding is no where near as fast as that for most people writing.

In first grade we were taught to write on cheap news print (just after WWII) using sharp pointy "straight" pens you had to dip in ink. Before I could learn properly my family moved from Chicago to a tiny country town (leaving any of my hard won acquaintances behind) and because the school years terms didn't match, stuck me in 2nd grade, and that was the end of my writing lessons ( I was also expected to be able to do adding and subtracting which wasn't taught in the beginning of first grade in Chicago). I'm only slightly improved now.

In this little country area there were less that a dozen kids so we all got to play baseball. I thought I was OK but as we all got older I found I was chosen for teams later and later until, eventually, even littler kids and girls were chosen before me, until eventually we got even older and almost all the other kids were accepted to play in Little League....but I wasn't. I don't think I ran into many of my old "friends" after that.

It wasn't until I learned about Asperger Syndrome and how it applied to me, that I discovered what had happened.

P.S. In the beginning of my freshman year of high school my folks moved us again (once again leaving everyone I knew behind), this time back to a different part of Chicago where I again knew no one....but that's another story.