Does Anyone else have Physical Disability Envy

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^ Exactly Kraftie! Well said.

This is seriously going to frustrate me.

Does nobody.

Nobody.

Listen to a damn f*****g word I say. s**t.

I was not saying they had it better. I was saying in that instance I felt envious because my friend the one I was talking with said physical disabilities are different and should be treated different. Than told me I was being a whiny p**** who was using an excuse and that I can overcome anything.


I do not think in my personal life anyone has it better. And I feel bad every time I try to get benefits for everybody. Because I could imagine someone having it worse off having to go through all these loopholes just to get basic rights and needs.

I always ask myself where is the pursuit of happiness. Why is that no longer a right someone should clearly have?

In that one instance between that discussion with my friend, I felt envious and wondered is this the way everyone thinks. Not because I think people with physical disabilities are luckier. Not because I think people with physical disabilities have it easier.

As in, wow my friend really regards this better than he is regarding me. I wonder if this is how the majority thinks around here.

I am sorry, but I am really getting irritated right now that I am being ignored. And people keep putting an interpretation that was not my intention or meaning.

If you're not being whiny, you don't have to listen to your friend.

Maybe your friend was having a bad day that day. Maybe he/she needed to blow off some steam.

Part of blowing off some steam, unfortunately, frequently involves playing the blame game.

I'm called all sorts of things. It doesn't mean they're true!

Your friend is definitely wrong. You have every right to be mad at him.

Sure, you weren't trying to say that physically disabled people have it better than we do, you were just saying that your friend made you feel that way by saying that the mentally disabled are just a load of whiners. I think you've got your answer several times already. He was wrong. There'll always be some cheats who blame invisible things to escape responsibility, but obviously, saying we're all like that is way out of line.

No I don't envy people with psychical impairments. I don't want to be blind or deaf, be in psychical pain, not being able to walk far, being unable to walk and I get no exercise because of it, I don't want an arm that doesn't work, I don't want any missing body parts. I also don't want to live a life of not being able to do anything that I need people to feed me and change me like I am a baby because I am that disabled and I can't even push myself in my own wheelchair and I have to be picked up and dressed and be bathed by someone. I do not want those limitations. I like my freedom and that I can see the TV and see my children and see what is in front of me, I like that I can hear, I like that I can play video games and use the computer, I like that I can have exercise to stay thin by using my legs, I like making my own choices and buying anything I want. I am also glad I can go in stores that wouldn't even fit a wheelchair and also fly. Passenger jets have no place for wheelchairs so people who need them all the time are screwed. So I don't envy people with psychical impairments and I realize I take all this for granted. I think we all take things for granted.

A lot of psychical disability is due to a mental defect. Like cerebral palsy for example. Or my severe dyspraxia. Or being paralyzed from a stoke.

But what you are saying basically is that it is easier for people who are physically disabled to be accepted as disabled. And that you in a way envy that. Which sounds perfectly understandable to me, because no one is going to tell someone in a wheelchair to tough it out, get over it etc. But you are expected by some to get over it, grow up, stop making up excuses etc. Your friend is obviously very ignorant.

OP, it sounds like you are envious of the understanding that is offered to those with visible disabilities -- not envious of the visible disability itself....?

No, I don't envy those with physical disability because I have a physical disability myself.

I don't get this line of thinking that mental disabilities are somehow less significant than physical disabilities. What people like your so-called friend don't get is that there is a physical/chemical aspect to mental disabilities.

Tell your friend to get a grip and stop whining himself.