Aspies and lying

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I think I can lie well. I'm good at keeping a straight face and making eye contact and acting normal. But I don't lie a lot, other than saying, "Nothing" when asked "What are you thinking?"--that kind of thing. Sometimes I even have compulsions to tell people certain truths about me.

People in general can be good, bad, or somewhere in between. There are aspies that have harmful behaviors because of their autism, and there are likely some that are just mean people, and it has nothing to do with autism.

Having autism can make it harder to relate to and understand others (cognitive empathy /theory of mind) , and make it more difficult to feel empathy as a result. But many of those on the spectrum actually have reported increased empathy and sympathy for others compared to the average person.

When I was young I could be quite callous, because I didn't understand others or how my behavior affected them. I also had an abusive childhood. But I have worked on these aspects of myself. And I've always had very strong feelings of affective/emotional empathy.

My point is that we are not all the same, and it's entirely possible that your dad is a jerk just because he's a jerk.

Neurotypical doesn't mean without mental illness. It just means people that have typical brain development. Their "wiring" is normal. NT people do think about murder. Murder and homicidal tendencies are part of human nature.

People with abusive childhoods may have anger issues and commit murder. It may even be just a normal part of culture for some people. Human behavior is really very complicated. It would be nice to say that people who do bad things aren't "normal", but they often are.

Human beings are animals, and we have animal instincts. We aren't perfect. We have intelligence, but often can't control our instincts and listen to our common sense.

Everything is really very complicated, and hard to explain. Perhaps you should study psychology and anthropology. You'll obtain a greater understanding of your father, yourself, humanity in general, and how we relate to the world we live in.

Ok, there are differences between acquired mental illnesses, and inherited ones.

People can be genetically predisposed to develop anxiety disorders, depression, etc. But they aren't always specifically caused by biology. Environmental factors come into play, and can cause that person to develop the condition.

Then perfectly "normal", NT people can develop mental illness because of environmental factors only. There is no genetic predisposition, only life circumstances. They are basically just NT people who developed problems.

Then there are people who are born with disorders. Autism is a developmental disorder, not a mental illness. It's literally just a brain difference that can be caused by many different genetic factors. There are many types of autism with different origins.

Sociopathy/psychopathy are disorders thought to be genetic, but also thought to sometimes arise from early childhood trauma or separation, or both genetic predisposition and environment. But sociopaths have major differences in the way their brains work. These are biological differences and deficiencies. Sociopaths I'd not consider to be NT.

Narcissism resembles sociopathy, but has different origins. Usually narcissists have the capacity to feel affective/emotional empathy, but are self-centered, and don't feel empathy because of it. It's thought to be caused by environmental factors instead of genetic/biological ones. Narcissists are thought to have deep feelings of inadequacy, and low self-esteem, which they make up for by building themselves up in their own eyes, overestimating their own abilities, having unrealistic ideas of their own importance, and by using lies and manipulation to get admiration or other reactions from people. I have a person in my family that many suspect is a narcissist, and these things are true for that person. I don't believe narcissists are "wired" any differently from an NT. They just have mental illness due to problems stemming from childhood environment, usually.

Schizophrenia is thought to have strong genetic ties. I would say schizophrenics are not NT at all. Their brains work very differently.

Intellectually disabled people are also not NT.

I have no idea what NON is.

I consider NT to be a person who has neurotypical brain development and wiring, regardless of any mental illness. So a mental disorder arising from non-typical brain development would not be NT. Whereas one caused by other factors would just be a mental illness, and the person would be NT with mental illness.

And autism can be detected with fairly high accuracy with tests like fMRI (brain scan), and so can sociopathy. Also EEG shows differences between those with Asperger's/autism/ASD and neurotypicals.

Yes, I don't think the two disorders appear the same at all, and this man does not seem to have Asperger's to me. His eyes don't seem evil, but blank. His head movements, eye contact, eyebrow movements and other expressions are not indicative of Asperger's either. I could be wrong. I also disagree with what he is saying about those with Asperger's.

Those that are faking emotions are often easy to read because they don't mimic important, but less obvious parts of facial expressions. Fake-charming people don't usually charm me, instead I feel alarmed, because I can recognize the incongruities between the facial expressions, tone of voice, and the actual words being communicated.

I don't think narcissists are necessarily evil, but they aren't particularly interesting to me, either. I would say that sociopaths that enjoy manipulating others to cause them harm are evil. Those that lack emotions are, in my opinion, more like machines than people. Some people seem to revere sociopaths as if lacking empathy is a strength, but many ordinary people are capable of cutting off their emotions if need be (compartmentalizing), and also of being great liars and manipulators if they feel it's necessary.

I am bad lier

How I take these words --
sociopathy: against society, on the whole
psychopathy: gravitates toward negativity
narcissist: worship of self

I was triggered, on many levels, and for a long time, but writings on *pathological narcissism would probably sound like revelations, in decoding neurotypical behavior. I believe that people can falter, for perfectly-legitimate reasons, but they will usually tend to be amazingly stable, and flippant.

I tell jokes with a deadpan, straight face, and am taken literally. And, that sense of danger never catches up with me immediately. I watched a rookie policeman's dog bite (!) him instead of me, and I'd bet I could pass a lie detector test, too.

The problem is that it eventually causes me to have panic attacks. Even if they are harmless, white lies, of the variety which are told out of politeness.

Through free association, I can slowly build up a detailed story. (Thinking of the late Zina Nicole Lahrs on Youtube.) But, I feel that it eventually gets too wordy and academical, and I lose NT people's ~20 sec attention spans.

I think people with autism can have empathy if they have enough information about what is going on with the other person or the situation.