Has anyone here ever been called retared?

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Maybe it's unpopular, but it's just a word I use. Just like F****T. Don't intend on offending anyone, but don't really care if I do.

I call myself ret*d all the time. I refer to my meltdowns as "tard outs". It's just a word. People give words like these so much unnecessary power.

My mother calls me this regularly

I get the feeling a lot of people think or suspect I am, based on the language they use with me. In eighth grade, someone asked if I was "actually ret*d".

I'm fairly certain one of the amazing and totally perfect (sarcasm) middle school bullies called me such, either behind my back or right to my face.

I used to get called it nearly every day in school.

My mom often times tells me "you look like/are acting like a ret*d" because sometimes I "pout" due to flat affect and have poor posture.

How old are you?

What context is this in?

Have you tried telling someone about this?

This borders on emotional and verbal abuse and she shouldn't do it.

If you think you can get away with it as far as family dynamics go than perhaps you should call her a fat cow and she how she likes that.

I use the word myself to refer to ret*d acts, not people. I've been called ret*d only by one person in my life, and it was in a fit of rage. Besides, his opinion didn't mean anything to me anyway. Nobody died and made him the barometer by which all intelligence is measured.

One thing I truly believe is that there's no such thing as a ret*d person. We all develop at different speeds, and we're all unique.

I got similar reactions in high school even though the word wasn't used except I got it from other students and teachers would try and hold me back and try and talk me out of taking certain classes and try and talk me out of certain jobs. But I think it was more over my AS diagnoses than them thinking I wasn't very smart.

I wasn't diagnosed back then, so the teachers really did think I was dumber than I actually was... I stimmed a lot at secondary school though (mostly through making strange verbal noises) and my attempts at being funny were incredibly childish. So I can kinda see why. A lot of students thought I acted like I belonged in a special-needs class. I already had a reputation of being unusual at primary school, which was carried forward from mutual students (a large portion of the school knew me and I was bulled by children who were as much as 4 years younger, maybe more). Whilst the percentage of students who knew who I was was lower in secondary school (due to the sheer numerical difference in student population), a lot more students in raw total numbers ended up knowing who I was, and it was a really hostile environment for me. It's kind of no wonder I've turned out to be such an anxious mess.

Another thing that didn't help was that teachers from my primary school told stories about me to students after I left, and those students would then graduate to my secondary school knowing who I was.

I have been asked at least once.

I am pretty sure that every one who grew up in Post 1950 America was called "ret*d" by classmates in primary, middle, or highschool, sometime or other.

Folks on the autism spectrum probably get it more than NTs, but everyone gets hit by the epithet growing up in the U.S..

But if you're a 31 year old adult, and frequently get in verbal fights with other grownups on a bus you ride. And if they hurl the R word at you then that's rather unusual even for an autism spectrum person.

Not saying that you are ret*d, but you must need some kind of coaching in how to act in public if that happens to you on a regular basis.

My third grade teacher called my mom up and said, "Mrs. G--, I think you're daughter's ret*d." It was mostly because she had a strong southern Virginia drawl, and I had a strong midwestern Arkansas twang, plus I had a bad stutter, so we couldn't understand a word the other was saying.

I had a English teacher that told stories about her old students when I was in 7th grade. She once told us a story about a girl who came to class with a bloody nose and said something inappropriate in front of the whole class and this was after her drunk mother had beaten her up so the girl walked to school like that. Then when I was a freshman in high school, I was famous by middle schoolers who I didn't even know because I was known as this girl who punched a boy named Casey when he sat in my seat. But the middle schoolers seemed to have thought it was so cool at what I did because I seemed to have gotten positive attention for it. The same teacher told them that story about me. At that age, kids seem to love violence. I am familiar with "fight fight fight" and how many times have we seen on TV about kids wanting to watch a fight? But even at that age I thought it was cool to see and I didn't think anything about how that one girl was beaten up by her mother. Now I realize how f****d up that is.

But seriously teachers telling stories about their students and using names is something that kids would do and I can't believe how immature they can act when they are supposed to be setting a good example for their students about how to act and treat people. I think if my children had a teacher like that, I think I would complain to the school about it and then to the school board. I mean using stories as anecdotes is fine just as long as they don't use names or give out any detail and I am sure that one girl wouldn't want other kids knowing how she got beaten up by her mother that one morning. I don't know why our teacher told us that story and I thought it was weird then she used her name and told it to us when I was told in 6th grade you don't say names when you talk about what happened and then this teacher contradicted it.

I have plenty of times especially as a child, usually by other children. People who don't know how to properly handle stress will take it out by name-calling, and sometimes worse. This kind of immature behavior is demonstrated often by children, and unfortunately by a lot of adults as well.

A lot of times, and I'm pretty sure some of them it was meant seriously.