whats the point of love if it never lasts?

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When I adopted my cat, I knew she isn't going to live as I (likely, hopefully) am--but that doesn't make me love her any less or make that love have no purpose. Love, for however long you have it, is worth having and experiencing because of what it teaches you about yourself and how it makes you more compassionate and giving. I have been in love before and it didn't last, but I wouldn't change anything about the experience because I will always have the memory of what it was like to be loved, and that has great value for me. You don't have to "possess" something indefinitely or even at all for it to have worth to you.

tsk, tsk, tsk....You have a dirty mind, Bea. I really was referring specifically and only about personality traits of dominance and submissiveness, not alternate lifestyles nor sex-based subcultures. Besides, the actual BDSM couples I've known never lasted past middle age (or maybe when the kids finally left home?).

So true. There have been some fascinating & oft replicated/expanded upon studies concerning scent and rated attractiveness. The really interesting thing is that just a couple years ago endocrinologists discovered that "pheromones" (ie scent molecules that chemically fit receptors like a lock & key) actually do exist. They'd been posited but never proven until then. It's now known that not only do the exist, but they have a separate set of receptors in the nose that like the olfactory glands connect to some of the low levels of the brain. And, they are sex-dimorphic & match a person's sexuality (not necessarily the sex assigned at birth or identified as). Still important to remember that just like almost all such bodily attributes, it's actually a spectrum, blah blah blah....