Can you have a certain look?

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That makes a lot of sense. People always seem to think I'm younger than I am, and I have features like big eyes.

I'm going to go with Tapping feet (with no other basis that it starts with a T, lol)
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That's how it is for me too.

I don't have a round face but ppl have said my eyes are interesting lol.

Ive heard the exact opposite: that aspies (if not other kinds of autistics) have longer faces than NTs. A lady on some site showed a drawing she made of her two daughters from a snapshot of them posed together, and the older aspie sister did indeed have a longer face. In fact the girl with long face even looked a lot like one young woman in my aspie support group.


But- then again someone on WP recently posted something about how some researcher found that aspies tend to have faces shortened in the middle tier (around the eyes, and the bridge of the nose and above the cheekbones). Dont know if thats been corraborated or not. It could describe me perhaps (have large eyes but a short nose bridge). But that could cause either above thing: the whole face tooking either less round, or more round, depending up the rest of your features.

I guess because I have a hard time reading people by looking at their faces, I wouldn't even have a clue if individuals with Asperger have a "look". I honestly thought that was the rudest thing I've ever heard when I read it.

I never understood why people asked me these things all the time either. I used to get really annoyed when they would keep asking if I was sure after I said I was ok or I wasn't mad. Now I just say, "I'm thinking." I try to be mindful of my expression, but I honestly do not even know what I do that makes me have the expression in the first place, so I'm not sure how I would change that.

Hello,

I sometimes get comments like this too. I had an operation about 8 months ago, and i lost many of my "masking" skills.

I suspect its because these days and i pretty much always slightly spaced out. Especially if i am outside. If i am alone i am normally focusing very hard to managing what i have to do (e.g., not get run over, remembering what to get etc) and when i am with my friends i feel safer and tend to relax. When with my friends i get much more flappy and derpy. Often i just end up holding their hands like a big kid.

I guess i "look" more autistic than i use too, but i don't consider that a bad thing. Its really helping me accept myself, now i can't hide it as well as i use too.... somewhat forces me to accept it and work with it.

Hope that helps,

Jamie + Lion

Huh, well I guess varing sources and whatnot...

"inward gaze" is a good description.
people often think i'm angry or sad or bored...
even when i'm having a good time or really care about what the person is saying.
also my eyebrows tend to be furrowed a lot of the time but not because i'm angry or frustrated.
other people i've met who are on the spectrum have some kind of atypical facial expression thing going on too.

Also another simple thing that can set us apart as being awkward is if we are buttoned up , literally http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/culturebox/2009/12/shirtbuttoning_styles_of_the_weird_and_special.html. See , as shallow as it might sound , when we button all of the buttons on a shirt , as I had down growing up , the neuro-typical general public will tend to think of us as being uptight , and uncool. It is the subtle cues such as this , which we think nothing about , that tend to give the impression that we are out of the ordinary.

That's interesting because I can't button up my shirts all the way unless absolutely needed socially. Meetings, things like that. I can't stand anything on my neck at all. So, maybe I give off that laid back look because of that sort of dress that I employ on most occasions.

I always think aspies look like everyone else. I can't even tell if they have it or not just by looking at them because to me everyone looks the same unless they have some weird body features and are acting totally different. I have seen a few kids on the autism spectrum and they seem to have different facial features but I think they have something else that gives them those features and those who are handicapped and severely afflicted by autism are very obvious even though they look normal. I may not know what they have but I do know they are handicapped. I have also seen people act crazy in public and I don't even know what they have or if they are just normal people. One man threatened that the whole universe will blow up and he will be the only one alive just because no one had a cell phone for him to sue so he could call his girlfriend or the time some woman was ranting on the train about computers and cell phones messing with her head and screamed at everyone to shut them turn off, or one man threatening to kill himself if he didn't eat because no one would give him money, or one woman getting pissed when some man tapped her on the shoulder to tell her she dropped her ticket and she goes off on him and goes on and on being a broken record, or one woman at the train stop saying homophobic things or random people talking to me telling me their drama.

When I was in London, I saw my mom talk to these two women and there was a short guy with them and I noticed he wouldn't go up the escalators and he was silent and I realized he was intellectually impaired but my mom said he was autistic and I assumed the women had told her but she said she just knew because he wouldn't go up the escalator and autistic people have issues with going on moving things.

That person was making a stereotypical assumption, and needs to be educated on autism. There is no such thing as "looking" like you have Aspergers.

I have been told I "look Aspie".