Do you ever feel lonely?

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Yes. Married 12 years, two kids, active in interest group, some friends (they are or have kids on the spectrum, ironically), but still generally feel lonely.

Unless I'm reading, researching, etc. Then I have all the friends I could want, and they accept me there.

I felt lonely alot after my 1st relationship ended till I got in my 2nd. Felt lonely again 1ce that ended until I got in my current.

I feel that too, especially when I don't know how to take part. I want to join in but I lack the skills.

The best cure I've found for loneliness is a dog - they are always overjoyed to see you and enjoy just being with you without any need for talk or sarcasm or complex interaction. Give then a biscuit adn they love you forever. I can do that!

I think I'm starting to feel lonelier as I get older. When I was younger there was a lot of stuff to do regarding getting my life together; school, getting a job, saving for a home, typical young adult stuff. Now, barring a major shock my life isn't going to change to much. I'm feeling more and more that having someone in my life would be nice.

I'm not sure if I've ever felt lonely. I enjoy solitude, and while I definitely feel out of place and unhappy in group situations, it's not that I wish I could fit in and be accepted, I just wish I didn't have to be there to begin with.

This. I spend a lot of time alone and it doesn't bother me, I don't feel lonely. But when I'm forced to socialise in groups such as through work, and I see everyone chat and laugh and get on, and I'm in a ball in the corner crippled by noise and ennui it's the only time I actually feel alone.

I feel very lonely right now, even though I'm staying with parents for the night. I feel like the unwanted immigrant to be cast into a room and hidden.

I always feel the most lonely in any social settings. When alone, I am content. The only difference is that as I adjust to my wife being gone, I do feel a bit of loneliness sometimes. She was a bit much to take since she was very, very extroverted. We didn't spend much time together and it was enough most times and too much many times. But it was contact that is now gone.

So, a bit of it now when alone. But nothing like when I'm out and about with people. In NYC, I feel like a movie where I'm moving at one speed and everything else is moving around me in a different color and speed.

Most days.

I have this as well, I am often alone but never feel lonely. I am at my best in solitude and like being able to communicate (internet/phone/other room) with people on my terms which of course isn't always possible.

I used to feel guilt for *not* feeling lonely. I'm in my 30s, and lots of my peers were often quoting loneliness, or loneliness was often in the headlines of the papers as being a massive danger, and so on.

Pre-diagnosis, I felt awful that I simply couldn't relate to people - friends or family - in the way I was "supposed" to: being in the same room/space and sharing experiences. Bleh! Not for me! I do have a long-term partner and I've gotten a bit more used to experiencing things with another person (trips/visits, watching TV etc.), but it's still hard sometimes.

Right now.

Yeah and no.

Sometimes I like being alone and other times when I see people with friends or a couple holding hands I'd be like 'I want that'. Other times I'm happy being on my own and having no obligation to anyone.
I would still like to be in a relationship though. I just can't find anyone who wants to be with me.

I guess everyone feels lonely now and then, NT or autistic.

I'm lucky I don't feel much. When I feel it, it's usually because I'm missing a specific person. I don't tend to get lonely in crowds because I like to observe them rather than interact.

It's a bit complicated.
There are times where I feel lonely, maybe because I can't talk to someone specific, but after I receive that attention I would much rather be by myself.
It's not that I can't enjoy being with other people, but I feel like I can't enjoy that feeling to the most when I'm with them. After awhile I find myself wanting to leave and have some space for myself.
If I had to choose between hanging out with someone or doing something that I enjoy (listening to music, playing games, etc.), then I would stay home and do what I like.
If I do crave social interaction then I rather it be with someone who I'm close with.

I had this conversation with my Mum recently (who thinks she is an aspie too, but has no diagnosis), she brought it up randomly. She picks my brains on how I feel quite a lot, I think she's trying to figure Asperger's out and compare her own thoughts and feelings to mine.

We concluded that we both understand "loneliness" by definition, but don't really understand what it feels like. I'm unemployed right now, I spend weeks at a time by myself and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I even get kind of hyper once or twice a day, as though I actually buzz off it or it's good for me. When I do see people though, I notice I feel better when I've spoken to someone. I don't feel bad when I'm alone, but I feel good after seeing people for the first time in a week or so (if that makes sense?!).

I feel very uncomfortable and outcast when I'm in rooms full of people. I think that's as close to lonely as I've ever been, which is kind of bizarre. I'm only lonely with lots of people around!