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26 Apr 2016, 11:23 am

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"Who's a good Aspie. You are! Oh..ess...ooo are! Oh ess oo are! Good apsie...good boooyyyyy..."

I know it's me. Maybe the anger showing though? I dunno. But it feels that way. Ego has never been a problem. LOL



No. It is basically being complimented by them saying how 'normal' you look.
I get that on the intellectual level. But it still feels that way no matter how I try to look at it. The thoughts are more in that moment. The rumination just keeps it fresh. That';s something else I gotta work on.

But, I did appreciate the sarcasm. Nice and over the top....subtlety does not work with me in most cases. LOL


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26 Apr 2016, 11:27 am

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I think that road from impression to implosion is the inability to maintain any type of facade over a long period of time.

And I've been through it as well.

Aaah... during my assessment, I did something similar. During the test of remembering number sequences, I was fingerspelling them in the air. Not as unusual as you would think.

I am heavily affected by local dialogue. One of my volunteers has a very different speech pattern, and I find myself using it frequently, especially if I have been speaking with her frequently.

More, uh, interesting? Funny? When I was 16, my cousin from Crete stayed with us. She had lost most of her English (although it was her first language), and spoke mostly Greek. Her accent was extremely strong as a result. She stayed with us a month, during which my mom would frequently yell at me for 'mocking' her. Except the accent persisted even when my cousin was NOT there, and you could not quite detect the country I was from. (oops). Understandably, something as simple as binge watching tv shows/movies from England will affect my speech as well. (My husband teases me to no end because I have to consciously watch my speech after watching Doctor Who).
The accent thing is funny with Autistics. Tony Attwood mentions it a lot. For me I don't even have to watch a lot of shows or even be around people for long to pick up the accents. It only takes a couple of minutes and there I go and I don't even realize it's happening. My family was a military family and we moved to a lot of different places. Every time we would move I would immediately pick up the local accent or way of speaking. My siblings never could pick up any accents and always sounded very awkward if they tried. I sounded like a local after only a couple of days. It used to drive my parents nuts especially if I picked up a lot of slang instead of speaking correctly. But I could do both. When I needed to speak correctly that was no problem. And they always thought I was picking up these accents on purpose but I wasn't, it just happened automatically. I love it though. I think it's a great gift and I am very happy to be able to do it. :D


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26 Apr 2016, 11:37 am

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I think that road from impression to implosion is the inability to maintain any type of facade over a long period of time.

And I've been through it as well.

Aaah... during my assessment, I did something similar. During the test of remembering number sequences, I was fingerspelling them in the air. Not as unusual as you would think.

I am heavily affected by local dialogue. One of my volunteers has a very different speech pattern, and I find myself using it frequently, especially if I have been speaking with her frequently.

More, uh, interesting? Funny? When I was 16, my cousin from Crete stayed with us. She had lost most of her English (although it was her first language), and spoke mostly Greek. Her accent was extremely strong as a result. She stayed with us a month, during which my mom would frequently yell at me for 'mocking' her. Except the accent persisted even when my cousin was NOT there, and you could not quite detect the country I was from. (oops). Understandably, something as simple as binge watching tv shows/movies from England will affect my speech as well. (My husband teases me to no end because I have to consciously watch my speech after watching Doctor Who).
The accent thing is funny with Autistics. Tony Attwood mentions it a lot. For me I don't even have to watch a lot of shows or even be around people for long to pick up the accents. It only takes a couple of minutes and there I go and I don't even realize it's happening. My family was a military family and we moved to a lot of different places. Every time we would move I would immediately pick up the local accent or way of speaking. My siblings never could pick up any accents and always sounded very awkward if they tried. I sounded like a local after only a couple of days. It used to drive my parents nuts especially if I picked up a lot of slang instead of speaking correctly. But I could do both. When I needed to speak correctly that was no problem. And they always thought I was picking up these accents on purpose but I wasn't, it just happened automatically. I love it though. I think it's a great gift and I am very happy to be able to do it. :D
Isn't it funny. One group of people will say what you did from their parents. Another group will say, 'wow, what a talent...can you do celebrities too?"

One point of view damning and suppressive.

The other, supportive and sees value in the quirk.


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26 Apr 2016, 11:45 am

No, I find it two-faced, inconsistent, and infuriating. How is one supposed to know what's appropriate if the rules constantly change?

Just like the phrase "It's all in your head" as a method to dismiss something.

Well, uh, yeah. Mental illness, migraines, autism it IS all in your head, literally, but it doesn't make it not real.

People are stupid.

I'm ending this comment before I go into full rant mode.


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26 Apr 2016, 12:05 pm

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No, I find it two-faced, inconsistent, and infuriating. How is one supposed to know what's appropriate if the rules constantly change?

Just like the phrase "It's all in your head" as a method to dismiss something.

Well, uh, yeah. Mental illness, migraines, autism it IS all in your head, literally, but it doesn't make it not real.

People are stupid.

I'm ending this comment before I go into full rant mode.

Rant away. It's what we're here for. But I will say that I can understand it logically.

But, I cannot feel it, if it makes any sense. I cannot tell when people are kidding or being serious. It's my limitation. They seem to be able to do it just fine.

And, you are right. All of this is in our heads.

They don't realize the difference is that it is not the same as 'making it up.' And when you tell people this, and they shrug it off, it's demeaning.

I attempted suicide in the Navy. I was 20...barely. Ate half a box of Rat Poison and used rubberbands with trapped wedges on the carotid arteries.

Got busted for pot. Sent to psych evaluation. Told him about that and told him about some of the things that had happened.

"Everybody's got problems." Swear to god.


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26 Apr 2016, 1:15 pm

To be fair, you likely couldn't have eaten enough rat poison to actually do damage. I believe it takes something like 100 bricks to kill you. Or that's what poison control said it would take when my 115 lb lab ate some many years ago.


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26 Apr 2016, 1:19 pm

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To be fair, you likely couldn't have eaten enough rat poison to actually do damage. I believe it takes something like 100 bricks to kill you. Or that's what poison control said it would take when my 115 lb lab ate some many years ago.

Did not know that. The intention was the same though. I mean I put friggin rubber bands on my neck with wedges to try and slowly just pass out from lack of blood flow.

I never claimed it was smart. I was really intoxicated though at the time. I came out of some time later, wandered into the sonar shack and told them what happened. They asked if I wanted them to call someone. I said no. They turned around and ignored me.


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26 Apr 2016, 1:23 pm

I'm jealous of people who can do accents!

I can only, under all circumstances, speak in my New York accent. My wife is a West Indian, and I can't imitate her accent :(



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26 Apr 2016, 1:34 pm

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I'm jealous of people who can do accents!

I can only, under all circumstances, speak in my New York accent. My wife is a West Indian, and I can't imitate her accent :(



Trust me. I can't 'DO' accents purposefully. It's embarrassingly horrible. But I can adapt one unconsciously.


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26 Apr 2016, 1:37 pm

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I'm jealous of people who can do accents!

I can only, under all circumstances, speak in my New York accent. My wife is a West Indian, and I can't imitate her accent :(



Trust me. I can't 'DO' accents purposefully. It's embarrassingly horrible. But I can adapt one unconsciously.

That's what happens to me. When I pull the file with the quote, it's always in the character's voice. I guess it just comes out.

You should see me when I'm pulling Monty Python quotes.


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26 Apr 2016, 1:38 pm

You probably could have been Rich Little had there not been a Rich Little.



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26 Apr 2016, 1:41 pm

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You should see me when I'm pulling Monty Python quotes.
Sorry but I think that's awesome!


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26 Apr 2016, 1:45 pm

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You should see me when I'm pulling Monty Python quotes.
Sorry but I think that's awesome!

Not in a business meeting......Boundaries are a severe problem.


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26 Apr 2016, 1:47 pm

Aren't you mostly in the Arts, which tolerates this sort of thing a bit more?

You're right....within a serious business context, you have to put up the filters.



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26 Apr 2016, 1:50 pm

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You should see me when I'm pulling Monty Python quotes.
Sorry but I think that's awesome!

Not in a business meeting......Boundaries are a severe problem.
Yeah, that might be awkward in a business meeting. Probably should keep the Monty Python quotes for non business occasions. :D


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26 Apr 2016, 1:59 pm

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Aren't you mostly in the Arts, which tolerates this sort of thing a bit more?

You're right....within a serious business context, you have to put up the filters.
That's the core of my distress. I am in the arts. But as my abilites get recognized in any situation I am in, I go to pieces. I am not equipped or trained or whatever to do that. I mean, I have been dismissed from meetings, all sorts of things.

Basically, the crazy things you do as a young person are not acceptable at my age on almost any level.


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