Anybody else had/has developmental delays?

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I didn't learn how to tie my shoes until I was 8.

I couldn't ride a bike until I was 11.

I didn't learn how to cook until I was 21 or 22, but I didn't get much exposure to it.

Just a couple examples...
I didn't brush my hair on my own until I was 14.
My bathing routine was completely socially unacceptable until about 21, and even now it's barely acceptable sometimes.
At age 26, I don't have a driver's license.
I have just taken over making my Dr appointments, keeping track of them and making my own phone calls in the last couple years. It's been a transition.

Hi it's Eric!
I was born eleven weeks premature with Autism and FAS. I weighed around two pounds, and my biological mother abused me in horrific ways for two years. I was abandoned in a hospital at two years old weighing 12 pounds. I didn't walk until I was five, talk until six, was in diapers 24/7 until nine. Still am incontinent at night. I have a significant learning disability in math, terrible social skills, but I'm very friendly. I'll go on and on about my one true obsession, GOLF!

I have them. I'm very child-like, and I tend to prefer things that are younger than my general age. I like cartoons, and I especially LOVE Disney Junior more than any other cartoon or channel. I also still enjoy stuffed animals and such. I even have a security blanket still. I also can't sleep without some sort of like on either. I don't know if these are really delays as far as development, but I'm pretty sure it's highly abnormal for someone who's 27 going on 28.

It's also hard for me to do a lot of things without parental support. For example, I rely on my parents a lot when it comes to my ability to express myself. They often have to explain things to people for me at times. If someone asks me something, my brain shuts down, and my parents have to speak for me. Not to mention that I have what's also considered an almost severe form of separation anxiety disorder with them. I also can't support myself. I can't pay my own bills, live on my own, cook my own meals (only microwave), and I can't hold down a job either. I even have temper tantrums every now and then. Like this one time when I had a tantrum because I couldn't see Ponyo in theaters. This was more or less driven by a huge HUGE obsession with the movie when it came out though. So, the inability to pursue said obsession most likely triggered a massive meltdown for me. ><

Oh, and I also had severe executive functioning issues growing up. An example would be that my mom would tell me to go brush my teeth. So, I'd go into the bathroom, only to forget instantly what I was asked to do. Then, I would walk out like nothing ever really happened. This also has caused me to end up having all my teeth pulled because they got so bad. The executive functioning issues are still there, but it depends more in the situation. You can't tell me to do multiple things. For example, you can't say "sweep the floor and do the dishes". I'd only remember the first thing you said. I also struggle with following directions too. My brain will shut down on me a lot if I'm in the middle or starting a difficult task. It gets to the point where the person either has to SHOW me how to do it, urge me on or do it for me.

I could go on forever about all of this...

No intellectual delays but, in retrospect, there were some things I didn’t learn in school and life because I had no interest in them at the time. I didn’t think I had any developmental delays, but after reading your list, I do and have had have some difficulties I hadn’t considered delays.

Tying my shoe laces took me until I was about 15-16 to do right. Most knots used to cause me a lot of issues but when I learn a knot now and have a use for it I never forget it. I think this is an issue of physical awkwardness with my hands. I'm much better now;

I didn’t have speech delays but I had to go for speech therapy to reproduce sounds correctly. I’ve always had issues processing speech and I still do. I have other sensory issues but they only cause me pain and grief, not delays in development like the speech processing causes;

Usually my social skills vary between passible and obnoxious. If I’m in the right mood, my social skills can be quite good or I can stop talking altogether, but those are both rare;

My biggest developmental delay has been emotional. I have overpowering emotional responses that I’ve never learned to deal with appropriately. I have learned to suppress them much of the time and put on a smile but it takes a lot out of me. I’ve realized that I do not respond emotionally the same way other people do. Now I sort of live on a seesaw going back and forth between being able to pass myself off as a fully functioning adult and needing someone there to hold my hand all day. My wife told me that with me around, we don’t need to have children. But she lets our Great Dane sleep in our bed now.

I didn't talk until I was four and I wasn't fully potty trained until I was four and a half. I have always looked young for my age. I still don't have my driver's license because the driver's ed program at my high school was terrible and I can't afford private lessons. I was the last one in my kindergarten class to learn how to tie my shoes. I didn't hit puberty until I was 14.