How to correct misapplication of motives

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My hubby is having to become less cryptic out of self-defense! Our counselor has told him a million times that I can't read him well and he needs to be more direct. So finally I've gotten so sick of his sighing, eye-rolling, eyebrow-raising, etc.etc.etc. that now I just say "what does that mean? what's that look for?" really loudly, and then he's stuck having to explain himself, and by that time he's so frustrated he's forgotten what he was originally annoyed about!! It's fun!!

lol, sometimes if my bf is really quiet about things, I'll start asking questions-or if he's snippy. I don't know why, but he always tries to tell me it's nothing, and it may take me an hour or 2 but I eventually do realize what it is, and if I ask him after I figure out (i.e. if he's aggrevated) he'll get even more defensive. Sometimes it's nice to feel like I figured it out, and sometimes it's frustrating that I had to figure it out in the first place, or that he was trying to pretend he was fine, which just makes it more confusing and annoying, lol.

I'm so comforted to read the last few posts! I am soon going to have some hypnotherapy to de-sensitise me to all this sighing, face-pulling, eyerolling business because it's causing real problems in our relationship.