Sensory issues and..... babies.....

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It's sad how many people forget that they were babies and children too at one point. That's why I've vowed to be my own weird, childish self.
I actually love babies and children, but the noise level is sometimes too much. I usually put my hands over my ears.

Eh, I did not forget, but I do not have to like them just because I once was one haha. I, too, cannot stand the sticky hands or the snotty noses that parents often ignore. The first time I agreed to watch it a kid was only a few years back and the kid (she was about a year old) had food gunk all over her hands not long after I fed her and tried to grab me. Yuck!

They are cute, sure... but I think I will pass on being around them for too long.

You are right, the really are wonderful. But the noise and the grossness is what I am sensitive to. Fortunately they grow quickly. Sometimes I tease people and tell them that their babies are payback for their parents because of how they were then they were kids.

I love the kind that I can give back to their parents whenever I have had enough. People often will give me grief for never having wanted to have my own. But I might have ended up in prison if I had. So it's better that I chose not to. When I have had enough, they need to go.

Ear plugs and noise reducing headphones. Can't say enough good things about those.

As a child who repeatedly had problems with outbursts and screaming meltdowns, I actually had a lot of time to empathize with children. I worked in childcare for a while, and then when my wife had her baby, I really got used to it. Screaming kids and babies isn't easy, that's for sure, but eventually there was a time where I was able to train myself to block it out, normally by reciting certain sentences in my head over and over, or imagining cranking up the volume of music in my mind so it is louder than the screams. Occasionally I will count to myself or make up a rhythm to follow--something that will distract me from all the screams, because especially for toddlers, whatever they're screaming about is just because they're frustrated and don't know of any other way to express themselves yet.

I have two kids, who are 8 years apart in age. I find that as babies and toddlers they are much easier to cope with than this dreaded preteen age my daughter is currently in. But I have been lucky with both of mine. My daughter was easily soothed, she just wanted to sit on you and talk at you, and she was happy. My son just wanted to be held and to eat. These were easily satisfied. I used, still occasionally use, a baby carrier with my son, and wore him on my back to keep him close, which also minimized both the one-on-one interaction that was required while still giving him the contact that he needed. Everything else was routine, or has indicators. When a baby is hungry, they open their mouth, and turn to the side. It's called Rooting. Everything else was just trial and error. Check diaper, clothes, or sleep. Even now, at three, he only desires those things, unless he is hurt (and then that is usually soothed very easily).

But keep in mind that if/when you have children, they grow up with YOU as a parent. Other people's kids do not. Your kids learn to recognize where your limits are, and how to avoid them. My kids, while active, can also be absolutely quiet. Probably in response to my need for lack of stimulation. Even though I grew up with a large family, I cannot tolerate larger families of my friends, and prefer to visit only when it is me and them.

Last Sunday I was at a dinner table really close to a baby cousin in a high chair.
He was not crying, but being very vocal. But it did not bother me much surprisingly.
But I think a baby crying insistently drives anyone nuts. Even more so for someone on the spectrum.

Yes. I can't stand it. Hence, my spoiled babies never cried, not really.

From what I have been told, when they are your own, that makes a big difference. I notice that I respond much better to babies that I have an emotional connection with than with babies of strangers just at the store or somewhere. If it's a baby that I actually love, like a friend's or relative's than I am much better about the crying. But if I am at say, Walmart, where I am already way overstimulated, if a baby starts hollering, I have no ability to deal with that.

I hate it when people say "you was a kid once" or "babies will cry, because they're babies."

I KNOW I was a kid once. How's that useless piece of information supposed to make me become tolerant?

I don't like babies BECAUSE they're babies. I hate their noise. I hate hearing toddlers screaming and being naughty in shops. Why don't supermarkets have creches to put their brats in while they're doing their weekly shopping? No small kid likes shopping. All they do is act up, run up and down the aisles, scream and cry, stress themselves, their parents and everybody else out, and just demand sweets and toys, which the parent is always saying no to. JUST LET YOUR KID HAVE A TREAT SO THAT IT WILL STFU ALREADY!! !! !! !

I still can't stand the noise babies make. I still can't stand toddlers jumping about near me.

New upstairs neighbours have a two-month old baby. The baby isn't actually the problem- it's the abysmally stupid parents. When the baby cries, they get angry and yell at it. They haven't yet worked out that this just scares the baby and makes it cry even more. Sometimes they try sarcastic imitations of it, which REALLY get the poor little sod going. Saturdays, they give themselves a break by turning the TV up so loud they can't hear the baby crying in the bedroom. Even I would be a better parent than that, and I straight up have a phobia of children.

Maybe the poor baby will "catch Autism". Sorry, I couldn't resist. I just got done reading from the thread of Autism being caused by refrigerator parents. Forgive me. It was kind of a cruel comment but I just had to say it.

But seriously, it is disgusting that parents can treat a baby like that. It's very much neglect.

That's what I thought, crying babies bother everyone- except my sister, it drives me nuts, her kid is throwing a tantrum and she does- NOTHING. She says "it just doesn't bother me" letting her kid cry for hours and it drives me ABSOLUTELY insane.

How can anybody yell at a 2-month-old baby?

Babies bug me so much I can't even stand this thread.

1) Crying babies make even NT freak because it's hardwired. You want to make them quiet (less scientific theroy, we were not always apex predator, so quiet = not eaten. Even wolves leave a babsitter to keep the cubs quiet an dout of trouble) . We are also more tolerant of puppies and other infant animals squealing in unhappiness than human infants.
We humans have a physiological response (too many to quote. JSTOR and NCBI have tons alone) which are interfering with our already strained abnormal nervous system and below belt hitting our weak spots middle temporal gyrus(emotional processing and speech) and is the orbitofrornt cortex (reward and emotion processing). It also enhanced performance of alertness because science proved it hits the sub-cortical areas (fight/flight) hard so we respond faster. And if not a parent you still go in alert mode. And honestly what happens as soon as one recover from a fright? Irritability.

2)Social delay that comes with the territory may make us less intuitive how to shut them up furthering our distress.

My second child was colicky. It was hell.
Children are disgusting since they take longer to house train than average pets do. My OCD clean freak perfectionism was sorely destroyed at year 2.
I genuinely enjoy infants and enjoy children which raised the bar on my toleration level. My sketchiest period were when sleep was a luxury since sleep deprivation can aggravate both my spectrum presentation and migraines.
I did occasionally have impulse to just get in the car and drive, but nothing directly violent towards child., ust irritability and need to escape.

and I found pregnancy gross.. I wonder if that is a spectrum issue. I might make a poll