Obsessed with someone on WP

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just keep talking to them and see

Its better to try and fail than to give up before you start and never know what might have been.

Even for arrogant and annoying people like me that should be detested by all there are people who like me.. they must be completely insane but contrary to what you may believe there are no unlikable or truly worthless people in the world.

If you believe they wont like you before you give them a chance and try to keep them away to keep from being hurt though you truly will be alone.

Forums are a great for getting to know really interesting people,in ways "real life" doesn't often afford,so I think it's natural to find some individuals particularly fascinating and focus on what they have to say.Plus,the nature of writing posts allows thoughts to linger so we can live with another person's ideas long after they are "spoken"/typed.We become part of one another's stories,if only fleetingly.The key is to recognize what is your projection and what is actually them,not confuse the two.I have admired people online and eventually become friends with them.I don't need to idealize someone forever.

Stalking is something else entirely,namely expressions of hostility and control,I think.

Yep stalking is not stalking unless you are you are relating to the real person rather than a fictionalised persona. For instance if I went round to Freya’s house, but thought she was the fairy godmother. That wouldn't be stalking.

For me people obsessions come with the idea that they have presented something interesting and appealing to my mind. My standards are relatively high so this doesn't happen often however when it does I get a little stuck. I often figure things out, figure out their personality, how they work, why they do what they do. Once this is done if nothing is left there for me of interest, say their character was all a bluff and they really aren't how they presented themselves I move on.

I can't say I have anyone like this here but I'm pretty new to WP, there's really only one person you could say I have a long term interest and obsession over.

My advice would be to try and figure out why you have an obsession over this person, once you find out why you can than explore the options of how to deal with it.

Well, just try to talk to them. To me, it'll get easier when I know the person. Maybe if the person knew you were obsessed with them, they could talk to you first, so you don't have to. Believe me, I've been hoping for people to make the first move towards me, but maybe it will happen with you.

How do you know it is a him?

It's quite all right, you're not the first young lady who's become enamoured of me.
I take it as a compliment, really I do.
My posts are fascinating and all that, so I can't blame you for reading each and every one ! !!
I'm erudite, and quite frankly, devilishly handsome (aren't I?)
Go ahead, as the previous posts have said, pm me ! !!
It's OK, now that you've confessed your obssession ! !!

even if there is the slightest chance that they may like you back, you MUST tell them..

my problem is (unlike yours) that i am ACTUALLY dull and boring, and the opposite sex make it very clear that they arnt interested in me that way.

i find you interesting, so maybe this person does?

*waves hand in jedi like movement*

you want to PM that person you like....