NT phrases or questions that drive you nuts!

Post Reply New Topic

I'm definitely a "pen pusher"

Yep....that "what do you do for a living?" question drives me bonkers. I wish I was a teacher or something of that ilk--but, alas, I am what I am. Which is really okay with me, most of the time.

People feel they have to, at least, have the appearance of caring about how you are doing--and they do care, but on a superficial level, usually. People tend to feel that they have their "own" problems/concerns.

If I see somebody who looks weary, I might say: you must have had a hard day today (usually, Captcha doesn't like too many quotes; that's why I use them sparingly). I think some people welcome that.

Sometimes, to be honest, I don't mind the "cute talk." It's better than cursing, any day!

There's nothing wrong with being a pen pusher, that's not the point I was making. I was saying that someone indeed has to do these jobs, because there are thousands of jobs that have to make the world turn round but which aren't something people consider their dream job, like the lucky but very relatively small proportion who get to be movie stars or working for Doctors Without Borders, say. I too work in a job I don't like and wouldn't choose except it's the handiest way I can find to survive without driving me crazy.

As for people caring when they say "how are you?" No 90% of the time that isn't a real question in which they care at all. It's not that they actively DON'T care or wish you weren't doing fine. It's just that most people really don't give a damn what the answer is because they're asking out of polite convention.

Sometimes if someone does ask a more genuine question because they think a person looks troubled, that can be real but the rest of the time they don't want to know. I was literally told that! The person who took me aside actually said that to me. He said "When people ask that, they don't actually want to know." Upon observation and inspection of the issue I can go along with concluding that's true most of the time.

As for cursing, if you're trying to shame me because I curse in a post I feel passionately about when I feel like it, sorry, nice try but I'm not a little child. And if you think I go around cursing at random people in real life for no reason, then you're stupider than I thought.

I'm probably every bit as polite as YOU are going about my day like you go about yours.

But when someone is being an as*hole, or someone attacks me, or something pisses me off, or a situation or disscussion becomes intense or upsetting, yes both online OR REAL LIFE I'll be cursing and I don't give a flying fck what you think about that. At least I have PASSION when the moment is one where it's understandable, I'm human, and I'm not just a bland Pollyanna.

I wasn't trying to shame you at all. Come on....why can't we stop this?

Sometimes, I feel like people just want to show the hard parts of themselves, so as not to appear weak. There's nothing wrong with that, per se, but I'm not really into that sort of thing most of the time.

I was just saying that I like cutesy stuff better than cursing. I don't always like cutesy stuff but I much prefer it to cursing.

I have friends who curse like sailors. It has no effect upon how I feel about them. I once had a friend come out of his car ON THE BROOKLYN BRIDGE to take a leak. That was 30 years ago. We're friends to this day; I went to his house for a barbecue on the Fourth.

"You don't look Autistic".

"Your faking it for attention!"

Your too smart to be Autistic."

_________________
Ya, I'm weird like that...

"What's the word?"

Like "like whassup?", and "how are you?". A greeting. But with "how are you?" at least you can mumble "fine", or "okay".

No idea how to respond to "what's the word?".

^ Standard response to that we're I live:

"Bird is the word."
Then you give them the finger.

^ It's used as a friendly greeting here between good mates.

different culture, I guess.

Nobody ever said "What's the word?" to me. Never heard that phrase in my life.

The closest is "Penny for your thoughts."

I hate "what do you think?"

I'm thinking about what I'm going to eat for my next meal or what I'm going to when you leave. If you want a specific answer, you have to ask a specific question!

Come to think of it, I have been asked: "What's the GOOD word?"