Aspies aspies aspies , ! What's the deal here ?

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There are tons of resources about children for parents of autistic children. Relatively little for aspie adults. So this site is the rare oasis for autistic adults. And we do have a parents forum, and parents ask a get feed back about their kids from the autistic/aspie adults here.

So I dont know what the OP is complaining about.

We already contribute in important ways that impact on all AS people, both here and on blogs and in activist organisations - by challenging the myths that stigmatise AS people, offering our insights, support and lived knowledge to our peers, and providing factual information for those ignorant or misinformed about AS. Wrong Planet was created primarily as a support forum for neurodiverse people, though there is an accumulated wealth of information here from thousands of AS people and others. Some of us (not me) write books, others make videos, others organise events. I write letters to politicians and policy makers. This all amounts to a huge amount of support being offered to the AS community by AS adults.

OP, it seems that you think that we should help with raising other people's children too, (in addition to our own? I have several!). That idea seems to me one of the most astonishing presumptions I have ever seen posted on WP. Perhaps I misunderstood your posts though it sounded to me that you have a significant sense of entitlement and of being owed by people here, and you would probably find one of the parent support groups or websites a much better fit. We owe you nothing. I also wonder what books you have read in order to increase your own understanding and parenting skills.

There is a lot you can do to help yourself, as a parent, if you are willing to do so, and insisting that AS adults are under some moral obligation to assist children such as yours is only going to deter people from offering the guidance and information they might otherwise be inclined to do.

Hoping that others will fill the gaps for you is perhaps a passing phase for you and as you acquire more information you will become more able to fulfil your parenting role wisely.

OP: I'm not sure if you are autistic yourself, but if you are you may be unaware that the tone in which you ask for help can greatly influence the desire of other people to offer said help. What I mean is, if you talk down to people and act like an entitled jerk when you ask them for help they are not going to be likely to want to help you. If you truly want support and information from the autistic members of this forum, you should learn to frame your request in a more polite and considerate and less condescending way. Maybe then you will get more helpful responses.

my interpretation/guess/translation so far: op has difficulty raising his child, and believes, therefore, that everybody is supposed to make his needs a priority. op writes in cryptic language, expects to be readily understood, insists it's others who are failing to understand his crystal clear language, and refuses to give any explanations and clarifications as to the context behind whatever he's saying or trying to say

if that's not some seriously serious theory-of-mind deficit, then i don't know what is

Father, directing your anger at us does not help your beautiful child. You may find organizations like Autism Speaks to be more helpful.

To put it simply, "Don't go to sandwich shop and expect a good pizza."

I suggest you use WP as a window into your child's future. Understanding the people here will help you understand the person your child will become. Many people here have shown great courage in theirs lives and overcome major obstacles that society has thrown at them. Try to learn from them and use it to help your child.

Simple...

There are endless contexts exists within the human continuum.
On every geography, on every nation, every culture, on every tradition, on every 'clans', on every environment, on every individual contexts that coexists in their genes and upbringing have different reactions on and within the autism spectrum.

OP, do you not know that? Even if the world only has one country, everyone still reacts differently. So, different cases, different scenarios, different individual needs... And not just yours. Or mine, or theirs.
Different sets people surrounding another, and so on, and so on...

Not every high functioning autistic could answer every desperate parents' questions, nor the higher spectrum problems solved even by those within the same level of said spectrum due to different contexts and circumstances.
Even so, people do what they can and trying.

You are trying but... Tsky.

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Logically, the ones with the most time and experience to help out with your problems are the young adults that are too busy trying to figure out how to get dates. My guess is they are too preoccupied with their own issues to help you out.

So many spoons , i think you are over reading too much here , you are taking the issue far beyond what is being suggested, cheers .

B19 and others , I don't know why you guys not consider a moral obligation to be what I think it is . It is helping others who need your advice . If this sounds only presumptuous on my part , then I would consider my presumption to be false . There is no ultimatum by any entity or thought , to force you to be obligated or not . I wanted your support , and you take it as I am asking for an entitlement .no body in this world could claim an authority to ask anybody what he should do . Since this suggestion is not prioritized in your perceived necessities , then it is simply that. I was appealing to you , this appeal was taken out of proportion .