Do you want children some day?

Post Reply New Topic

I don't understand how people could want their child to be on the spectrum. It's like being blind, and hoping your child will be blind too, just so they can struggle through the same challenges as you.

Having an Aspie child means it has a higher risk of being socially isolated and bullied at school, and I don't want to see my child go through that. Having a more severe autistic child means more challenges bringing it up, the world has to revolve around this child because otherwise the child will have meltdowns when there's light or noise. And some autistic children are unable to bond with you, others can become aggressive, and family life isn't normal.

NT children generally turn out the way you bring them up (until they get to adolesence), and they are more likely to have friends in school. I know NTs can be bullied too, but the risk is higher with autistic children (and children with any difference, not just autism).

I have always been able to bond with my NT parents and brother, I am very close to my mum and many other members of my family who are all NTs, I have a healthy and close relationship with my NT boyfriend, so I'm sure I will be able to bond with my own child that I will carry for 9 months, give birth to, feed, and love with all my heart.

I don't want to create anyone who has the risk of going through what I went through, or even worse.
I won't be passing on a supposed "gift" unlike what some posters here keep on insisting it is.

Three adult children, no regret at all. They have all managed to find their niche in the world. Their neurology is:

1 = Aspergers Syndrome
2 = Neurotypical
3= BAP

They are in their 40s now, and I feel blessed and privileged to be their mother.

No, I don't want children, and it has nothing to do with the chances that they might be autistic. I'm really tired of people trying to convince me that they're wonderful and I should have them.

I can't even take care of myself let alone another human being. So no I don't want children. I am getting a vasectomy next March.

BAP stands for Broad Autistic Phenotype (some AS traits, though so mild and or few as to be "subclinical" - that is, they would not qualify for a diagnosis under the current criteria).

No, and not just because of my having Asperger's, but because things like bipolar disorder and other severe mental illnesses are genetic from my dad's side of the family. One uncle in particular is so mentally unstable that everyone else had to cut him out of their lives for their own mental and even physical health. He's never been violent, just verbally abusive to everyone he's come in contact with. It's basically because of that uncle that I don't want to have children in case I bring someone like him into the world.

Absolutely not. As a girl I get told a lot that I will change my mind, often with a knowing smile, but no f*****g way. I am violently against the idea; I don't know why but it's always been one of my strongest convictions.

Ye gods, no. Cant stand the little rodents, which is a word that rather sums up my opinion on kids in general.

Yes, I'm being unpleasant here... dont care. My opinion on this one has always been pretty strong.

Granted, it's not like I have any desire to ever have a relationship with anyone anyway, so it's a rather moot point...

I do; in fact, there's nothing I want more. Of course, I don't expect anyone to want to have children with me.

Yes, I do.

Also, to add to what I said: I also fear that my kids would inherit my ASD, and to tell you the truth I wouldn't want to burden a new life with something like that.

I wouldn't want them to feel like they are less intelligent or socially skilled than other kids; in short, I wouldn't want them to "feel different". I've actually considered having kids though genetic engineering, which would give them the edge compared to other people, but at the risky trade-off of complications.