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09 May 2007, 5:19 am

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my sister says a lot of the same things...i think a lot of it comes from misperceptions of motive...for instance, I spend most of my time alone, in my room. When we were little, my sister thought that it was because I thought I was better than she was. I also don't give advice very well (tactfully) so a lot of times, she gets made at me for "pretending that I know everything." Sometimes explaining helps, but I think maybe it's best to just ignore sibling problems, since they often blow over.


just like my mom, she recently said "you think you know everything"
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Well, GEE, My mother JUST YESTERDAY told me she can't tell me anything, because I know it all! But HEY, I can't help it! But she NOW knows that I seem to know everything because, with respect to what those people talk to me about, I DO!

One foreigner a year or so ago gave me some achane english words, to trip me up. I knew EVERY one of them! He was SHOCKED! Do I know every english word? Well, I HAVE looked at lists of "advanced vocabulary" in book stores, and simple dictionaries(that were still quite large), and found VERY little I don't know. Sometimes I couldn't find ANY! But I wouldn't say I know a tenth of the english language. I may not even know a 20th! The average college vocabulary is like one 50th!

So I am certainly never going to say I know everything. I can't help it if some people can go on for hours without telling me anything new.

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09 May 2007, 5:47 am

Best reply: "Who are you?". He shouldn't talk to you anymore after this :P

It baffles me why exactly some behaviours make others think you are arrogant, but it happens.

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Well, GEE, My mother JUST YESTERDAY told me she can't tell me anything, because I know it all! But HEY, I can't help it! But she NOW knows that I seem to know everything because, with respect to what those people talk to me about, I DO!

My mother is like this, too. She keeps telling me something on the line "I didn't become old for nothing". But I think it's because she is a woman. You know the attitude you should have with women, "she is right about everything but we'll make things my way".



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09 May 2007, 7:47 am

My mother just calls me a failure all the time because I don't follow through with what I want to do one minute vs. the next. I always have something I'm "working on" for a long time, but it just isn't a priority at the time if I'm thinking about something else, so it doesn't get done. She also calls me this because I'm no good at math, history, or science (her areas).



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09 May 2007, 7:51 am

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Maybe his brother is right.


As a family we are all very close but being the eldest he was a constant pain in my ass if he was around at all. It was actually my bringing up our childhood that set him off. As we got older he was always trying to hang out or chat on the phone and it always felt akward. I thought he was trying to rebuild a broken relationship, he saw it as sustaining an existing relationship. I hurt him pretty badly I when I told him I just wasn't there yet. (ironically, It was trying to see my actions from his point of view that started all this) My sister feels the same way about the situation.

I am not any of those things though. I am self-involved but not at all self-centered. I don't expect the world to revolve around me nor do would I want it to. I'm no more important than anyone else and nobody else is any more important then me. I just look out for my own needs. I encourage everyone else to do the same.


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09 May 2007, 8:19 am

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My dad thinks I'm selfish and my mum thinks I'm stubborn. My younger sister thinks I'm weird.


What do you think of them?(other than loving them).


I think that my dad's a little confused, most of the time. I think my mum can be a little stuck-up at times, because she talks like she's nineteen, and my sister appears to be intolerant of anybody who's different from the people in the age bracket of her and I. I still love them, though. My love is unconditional.



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09 May 2007, 8:19 am

I’m intruding into your thread to speak of troubles with a sibling sorry. My beautiful “older” sister constantly derides me for being who I am, constantly takes advantage of me; steals, insults and has never defended me from anyone. She expects me to go out of my way to satisfy her and her needs even when she treats me worst than the people she hates (does this mean she hates me the most?), she lies more than she talks; if I don’t treat her how she wants me to treat her she goes out of her way to raise the temperature of her terrible taint by tormenting me and my mother even more....

I’ve done nothing to deserve this except just being there as a punching bag; perhaps that is what it is. My mother doesn’t understand why I even speak to her with my monotonous voice or acknowledge her; my sister has always been there unfortunately.

I guess she’s just one of those people who take advantage of naive and ignorant individuals (read: autistic) like me.



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09 May 2007, 8:50 am

I think my mother is the only one who really understands me. My co-workers think of me as smart and hard-working and, surprisingly enough, as a nice person. I am not super talkative and my focus is on my work, but I am friendly.



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09 May 2007, 8:54 am

sounds good
is he published ?



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09 May 2007, 10:46 am

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My mother just calls me a failure all the time because I don't follow through with what I want to do one minute vs. the next. I always have something I'm "working on" for a long time, but it just isn't a priority at the time if I'm thinking about something else, so it doesn't get done. She also calls me this because I'm no good at math, history, or science (her areas).


Nobodyzdream, what are your areas


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09 May 2007, 10:48 am

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I’m intruding into your thread to speak of troubles with a sibling sorry. My beautiful “older” sister constantly derides me for being who I am, constantly takes advantage of me; steals, insults and has never defended me from anyone. She expects me to go out of my way to satisfy her and her needs even when she treats me worst than the people she hates (does this mean she hates me the most?), she lies more than she talks; if I don’t treat her how she wants me to treat her she goes out of her way to raise the temperature of her terrible taint by tormenting me and my mother even more....

I’ve done nothing to deserve this except just being there as a punching bag; perhaps that is what it is. My mother doesn’t understand why I even speak to her with my monotonous voice or acknowledge her; my sister has always been there unfortunately.

I guess she’s just one of those people who take advantage of naive and ignorant individuals (read: autistic) like me.


Ignore her.


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09 May 2007, 2:06 pm

I know lots of people have problems with their familes and I have a few with my extended family members. One of my aunts thinks I'm rude and inconciderate but doesn't give me or my mom too much grief about it. The more I start learning about AS the more I realize how lucky I am. I was a weird kid, a weird teenager, and now I'm a weird adult. But my family has always been with me. I'm the 2nd of 7 kids and we always seemed to get along well. One of my brothers is allot like me and we have many of the same interests.


My dad thinks that I'm too soft and wants me to toughen up but he's a good guy. I think he has AS as well but I've never mentioned it to him cause he hates doctors and anything medical, even TV shows about doctors. My mom realized there was something different about me when I was a little kid but she didn't know what it was. She tended to baby me allot more than my other siblings and still does even though I'm 22. She would always tell people to shove it if they complained about my behavior, she let me pursue my special interests, and the only problem I really have with her is she pushes to hard to make me be social. My older sister and the oldest of my brothers seemed to realize something was different and they tend to shelter me as well.