People as obsessions or affections or special interests

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I do daydream a lot, and not just about the objects of my obsessions. This past school year, I had trouble focusing in class and took any excuse to leave because I just wanted to think about my imaginary worlds.

once it's almost over, I certainly have imagined enough about them to write a damn novel if I was so inclined... or was a competent writer.[/quote]
you know the same thing happens to me , in the same way too , i thought i was the only one ! ! (glad i'm not) but that's before i discovered that i'm wired differently and that all the little things i know about myself are just the symptoms of ap . and i found it strange that i'm not like other aspies ;( i don't have an intense interest) , until i read your post ! i've tried to write some of "imagined novel" about a person i obsessed with but the writing was so weird , it made me embarrassed !

The same thing happened to me with a girl in high school; I had a crush on her for the remaining 3 years until graduation. I've never seen her since, but I do stalk her social media from time to time ... she's still on my mind another 3 years later . I just really admired her a lot but never tried talking to her; she knew I liked her though since she'd catch me staring at her direction. She also mocked me sometimes which I realized at the time too and it annoyed me yet I was blinded by my attraction to her so I often put it aside.


Likewise, another thing happened with a girl my freshman year of college. I guess I had a crush on her too, but I just really wanted to be her friend tbh. I had no idea how to talk to her though (she seemed rather intimidating and she often had headphones in, so I decided to not bother her). It was a pretty bad time in my life (regarding me panicking about my major - I was doing what my parents wished I would pursue - and I was just constantly worried and scared about my future lol) and so I essentially just used "my obsession" with her as a distraction to cope.

It was horrible. I acted impulsively, and sometimes "followed" her after class to see if I'd eventually muster to courage to talk to her. It came off as stalking (which maybe it was, considering I was also stalking her social media) and once she caught on she stopped showing up to most of the lectures the second half of the semester. I found out she had a boyfriend towards the end of the semester (and they're still together btw, senior year now! good for them tbh, I'm not hating) and he definitely knew about me because they'd both stare me at me if I saw them campus. She's also fairly popular, so I assume she's told a lot of people (a certain community) about me - understandably for her own safety - because I notice some stares by these people that I know are her friends whenever I run into them.

I still think about her a lot today. I rarely see her on campus now, but when I do I just have a lot of rushed feelings, and I try to avoid walking her direction - to avoid any eye contact, mostly because of guilt/shame. I've thought of apologizing to her since my sophomore year, once I thought things through over the summer and realized how wrong I acted, and I've seen her/been in proximity more than a handful of times since then but never could do it. I figure the damage is done and there's really nothing to do to actually fix it. It definitely messed up my college experience though (I know I messed up hers too that fall semester but to be fair I haven't recovered from the consequences either) and I'm still "obsessed" with her today I guess. But I think I'm just really obsessed with the situation, all just feelings of guilt honestly.

I've had obsessions with a couple guys too but they pass fairly quickly. They're out of my mind once I no longer see them around on a daily basis lol

I used to be obsessed with the backstreet boys. Does that count as "people" even though there's 5 of them :p

Yes, I can relate to this very well. I get 'crushes' on people, one person at a time, and I find myself gathering as much information about them as possible. Then, rather quickly, the obsession ends and I wonder why I ever thought that person was interesting. I've done this about customers when I worked at a bank, to the point of reviewing their debit card activity to know where they shop and when (although I never went to the store to see them there or anything like that; I just wanted to know their shopping habits). My most recent crush was on the neighbor guy next door. This has been going on for around 2 years and it is quieting down now. I used to watch when he would come home, when he would leave for work, when he mowed and any other information I could gather. I know much more about him than I'd care to admit, but again, it's the KNOWING that I like, not doing anything about what I know (for example, I know his work schedule but I don't go talk to him when I know he's home).
I've done it with people online or people I see in pictures or videos, though to a much lesser extent. It is unusual, and some people might think I'm creepy because of it, but it's harmless. I just like to gather information and I need a subject to learn about. I've also gotten 'crushes' on non-people subjects I can learn about, like mushrooms and honey bees. I read all I could about mushroom life cycles and different types of mushrooms and where/when they grow. Then, suddenly, I stopped caring. It's still interesting, but not an obsession. If I could keep it as an obsession, I could get a PHD in mycology (study of mushrooms) and study mushrooms for a living, but I don't care that much anymore.