Would you consider having children?

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I want to adopt, but not because of a fear of passing on autism.

I'm not having children.

Just not.

My parents did such a poor job I would not want to inflict that on anyone. I can barely take care of myself, and I would be ever fretting about the kids welfare. So consider having children? Absolutely not, unless I could get like... free range kids that I can just let loose in the fields.

I'm not getting into a relationship or having kids. I'd rather stay young than get into a traditional relationship.

unfortunately, staying young is easier said than done.

I'm not having children, and it's not because of a fear of passing on autism, but because there are other things like bipolar disorder that runs in my dad's side of the family, and clinical depression from my mom's side. I've had to cut off all contact with my youngest uncle on my dad's side for my safety and sanity because he's just too mentally unstable to be around, and I really don't want a child like him.

I can't relate to others, I am not very nurturing or patient, I lack financial security, and I have a psychological block that makes it next to impossible to form and maintain healthy interpersonal relationships.

No. I am not father material and therefore I would not consider having children.

I personally want children.

I very much want children and think I would be a good mother. I decided a long time ago that I both want biological children and I want to adopt. I would like to have the experience of pregnancy and birthing, and also there are so many children out there who need a good home, that I would like to do both. We'll see if any of that happens, but that is what I want.

Now that I know about the autism, it certainly gives me pause, but I am not so afraid of challenges that I will give up before I start (at least in this case; ask me to a party and that's another story ) And for the child/children, they will have a loving and supportive family no matter their autistic or NT qualities, and that is the best I could wish for any child.

Now I just need to find the right guy to take the journey with me... Maybe I should go to more parties?

If I didn't have various other mental issues and an incredible fear of pain, I would consider having kids. I'm not worried about my kids being autistic or otherwise disabled, because I know they'll grow up fine if they have a good parent and especially one who understands what they're going through. I'm not sure i could be a good parent, though. I have bad anxiety, and I wouldn't be able to teach them social skills. Adoption is one thing to consider, and I'd be 110% okay with adopting an autistic kid, but again, I'm not sure how good I would be at motherhood.