Seperating aspergers from personality

Post Reply New Topic

Personality and Asperger's are different. You cannot say that all AS are the same. However you can say that AS will influence your personality to a varying degree. Generally speaking if the person is High Functioning they can learn good behaviour. Some concepts like blame or who is at fault are a bit can be tricky. Avoid that angle, it not so important if you think about it. An expert would be able to tell you whether somebody can control their behaviour but lower functioning would have more difficulty as a rule.

But I don't think it is this. You haven't told us what is actually happening. When you have AS it can be hard to express yourself to people. You can misread situations. I often think people are angry when they are not. Also we are sensitive about certain things and these things must be accommodated because it is almost impossible to change them tbh. It would like being violated. It depends on the aspie, but it could be personal space, property, routines. Just because we can't read people as well doesn't mean we aren't sensitive to other people. Neurotic, jumpy people make me nervous. My folks are like that, so I prefer them in small doses lol. I’m not really family orientated. Not into family holidays, etc.

Also we can have problems with empathy. This is not bad behaviour. We don’t always know how someone is feeling. I’m not sure NTs do either they just think they do. If think that is bad consider this: Is rubber-necking car crashes empathy? Is filming atrocities empathy? Is reality TV empathy?

Can the aspergers syndrome be seperated from who someone actually is? Or is someones behaviour and aspergers one and the same...

... I've let him know how his behaviour is affecting me and the rest of the family, but he carries on regardless. He is displaying some very selfish tendencies.

Is aspergers making him behave this way? Or is it possible he's just an as*hole? (forgive my crude term). I need to know whether I'm doing him a disservice by letting certain behaviour slide, and assuming he behaves how be behaves becuase of the aspergers..