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08 Dec 2016, 10:16 pm

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One of the most bigoted, hate-filled person I've ever met is likely on the spectrum. I suspect it's due to the black and white thinking ("white people are good, black people are bad", and so on...). I try to avoid them because they make me angry and depressed.

So... how does this person feel about "gray" people? Seriously though, binary thinking is a miserable existence. I've never heard of it in terms of ethnicity, but it's a proven recipe for depression. I still have to search for exceptions to situations where I feel I'll never accomplish "X", or I'm always <insert negative trait here>.

It's really not easy.



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08 Dec 2016, 11:06 pm

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as I grow older I find that I am gradually learning that I dislike certain people's behaviors more than I dislike them, but that it is all too easy to conflate the two things.


This is how I see it too, auntblabby.


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08 Dec 2016, 11:13 pm

I don't necessarily hate everyone, but I am very put off by any stranger or people I don't know very well and typically don't have much of an interest in knowing them. Unless I connect with them on a high level, and that's when I make friends. :)


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09 Dec 2016, 12:02 am

Asperger's isn't a prerequisite for a person to hate everyone. However, just as some neurotypicals hate everyone, I'm sure there are some Aspie's that hate everyone.

What I've observed in both normal people and those with Aspergers is that significant emotional harm may cause a person to develop a strong disliking towards a particular thing. It seems to be a defence mechanism. The thing they dislike usually relates the cause of thier bad experiences. For example, a person may hate dark-skinned individuals because they were severely bullied by dark-skinned kids in school.

Whether Asperger's gives a predisposition to that I don't know. Trauma seems to go both ways; some become overly empathetic and caring, while others may grow callous and hateful, and anything in-between.

Of course, I'm not implying that you need to have experienced trauma to hate everyone. This is merely one possible reason as to why a person may hate everyone.



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09 Dec 2016, 4:21 am

Knofskia wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
as I grow older I find that I am gradually learning that I dislike certain people's behaviors more than I dislike them, but that it is all too easy to conflate the two things.


This is how I see it too, auntblabby.

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09 Dec 2016, 9:45 am

I'm more inclined to like people than I an to hate people. The only time I really hated people was when I was in Grades 8-12. That was because I was in high school and I was around my narrow minded peers all the time.


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