14 Dec 2016, 5:28 pm
FandomConnection wrote:
naturalplastic wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
I am completely on a script when somebody asks me, 'How are you?' My reply is always, 'Very well, thank you. How are you?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
That works.
If someone asks you "how are you?" just give the stock answer (with the stock ending "how are you?").
If they surprise you by saying something other than "fine thank you" then ask "whats wrong?".
Keeps it simple, but polite.
Do you think NTs have scripted answers like this also?
Of course they do.
We aspies/auties have to consciously script things a little more. NTs pick up scripts by osmosis more. But NT parents have to instill social "scripts" into their childrens' heads regardless of whether the children are NT or not. Like mom telling me (when I was already full grown) "You say 'congradualations' to the groom, and to the bride you say 'good luck'. NEVER do it the other way around"" to take an example that was recent enough for me to remember the actual conversation. Most parental scripting was so far back in my childhood that I cant recall specific conversations, but I know that such coaching happened.
14 Dec 2016, 5:45 pm
FandomConnection wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
I am completely on a script when somebody asks me, 'How are you?' My reply is always, 'Very well, thank you. How are you?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Nothing wrong with scripted small talk. I hate small talk personally, I like some substance to a conversation. I'd rather discuss ideas and I can't stand drama or gossip.
I also dislike small talk, especially gossip etc. I understand your preference for discussing ideas; I enjoy debating about all sorts of intellectual things, especially theological philosophy.
I'm afraid I cannot entertain you on this subject, I'm an Atheist and don't subscribe to religion.
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16 Dec 2016, 4:35 pm
16 Dec 2016, 6:21 pm
blackicmenace wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
I am completely on a script when somebody asks me, 'How are you?' My reply is always, 'Very well, thank you. How are you?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Nothing wrong with scripted small talk. I hate small talk personally, I like some substance to a conversation. I'd rather discuss ideas and I can't stand drama or gossip.
I also dislike small talk, especially gossip etc. I understand your preference for discussing ideas; I enjoy debating about all sorts of intellectual things, especially theological philosophy.
I'm afraid I cannot entertain you on this subject, I'm an Atheist and don't subscribe to religion.
I'm an Atheist too. I like talking with people who are religious, but I would also be interested to hear why you don't believe in a deity etc.
So, you probably could entertain me, actually.
16 Dec 2016, 7:03 pm
FandomConnection wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
I am completely on a script when somebody asks me, 'How are you?' My reply is always, 'Very well, thank you. How are you?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Anybody who answers (in some manner) that they aren't feeling good is then asked, 'What's wrong?'
Nothing wrong with scripted small talk. I hate small talk personally, I like some substance to a conversation. I'd rather discuss ideas and I can't stand drama or gossip.
I also dislike small talk, especially gossip etc. I understand your preference for discussing ideas; I enjoy debating about all sorts of intellectual things, especially theological philosophy.
I'm afraid I cannot entertain you on this subject, I'm an Atheist and don't subscribe to religion.
I'm an Atheist too. I like talking with people who are religious, but I would also be interested to hear why you don't believe in a deity etc.
So, you probably could entertain me, actually.I have a fetish for facts supported by empirical evidence and don't believe in magical thinking. I must see the logic, and the logic seems to point to a time that couldn't explain the things they feared so why not borrow from past ideas as a foundation to create a feel good story. Organized religion preys on the natural fears people have about their own mortality. Evolution is the logical explanation to our current existence. All one needs to do is look at stages of an embryo to see our history throughout its development.
I typically avoid talking about someone's religion because they usually aren't receptive to others beliefs because in the process, they must first question their own which is not acceptable. If someone is willing to accept that we aren't infallible and understanding the universe completely likely isn't something our biology can handle, then we can have a conversation. Otherwise, I respect what they want to believe.
