Do you enjoy social situations?

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I enjoy company, but not really talking much.

Imagine being disconnected from the force while everyone else has it flowing through their veins. That's how I feel.

For me it varies from situation to situation. When I am curious about someone I can enjoy small talk. However if it is with people I know I prefer to have meaningful deep conversations.

For me it depends heavily on exactly who it is I'm socializing with, how comfortable I feel with them, which also is connected to how close I am with that person (are they a stranger, an acquaintance, or a friend I know very well and have established ease with?).

And also it depends on if I've already felt like I've had too much dealing with people I don't feel at ease with, thus stressing me and draining my ability to cope with more.

So because of all the above, I've had both enjoyable socializing I actively welcomed and liked, and stressful socializing I couldn't wait to get away from.

The only time I can tolerate social situations is if I'm on drugs, otherwise it's too much to deal with and I get a horrible headache. I wish I could be more social and have friends like everyone else but it's so hard for me to open up to people. Sometimes I feel so isolated/lonely I just feel like dying.

Aww, so sorry you feel like that.

I used to have the opposite problem, I'd be too friendly (making loads of social mistakes) and drive people away.
Now I've become kind of indifferent (for my own protection).

Perhaps you could have online friends, or find someone that is more of a passive quiet person that listens a lot.
Would Skype or something online be easier than real life interactions?

I find socializing "awkward". Almost like I'm the elephant in the room and everybody around me wants to tell me that i'm doing it wrong, but avoids saying so to spare me the embarrassment.

Needless to say, I don't enjoy socializing. It's something I tolerate when I don't have much of a choice.

Nope, I hate them. Can't do it. I don't have the ability to think on my feet and keep conversations going, and in conversations involving more than one other person, forget about it. The topics change so quickly and I can't keep up. Like other people, if one of my special interests is brought up, I can talk about that. I'm good at not monopolizing the conversation, which a lot of us do. But no, socializing, be it in person or through text, is not fun at all.

<--- Would rather have his pubic hairs pulled out with pliers before joining a social situation.

One of the reasons I've joined this forum was in hopes of making some online friends. I wanted to meet other aspies/spectrum folks. Skypes cool. Irl I prefer just me and one other person in an area that's not in public.

Depends

given room to move and things to see and do, i certainly can, though i'd still prefer to not speak to anyone.

in a way, i can..."absorb" the happiness of others in those kinds of situations, even if i have no idea what they're so happy about. (which is a majority of the time)

Rarely.

I can enjoy being social - immensely, if it the right people - but if it happens too often, I stress up.
This means, that I often can´t fulfill, what others consider to be a sufficient amount of social activity for keeping up a friendship.
I´ve lost some on that account.

I like having a friend round, or meeting one in a quiet pub. If there's more than one I can't keep up with the conversations and zone out, but one on one is fine. I can even deal with parties if I find a quiet space to retreat to (and drink enough wine). But overall, I prefer being home alone to socialising.

Edited to say that I avoid work-related socialising like the plague - I never know what to do in those situations. And any kind of socialising leaves me exhausted, so I pick and choose carefully.

^^^Same here as Hippygoth, my ideal situation is just to have a friend come round to my place. My optimal circumstances is one-on-one in an environment I can control for things like level of quiet -- I can't listen well or talk and can't even think when there is noise and distraction.

My enjoyment is entirely dependent on the context of the social situation. If it's a rowdy party, I will hate it. If it's a quiet gathering amongst friends then I will enjoy it. Other than that, I like to avoid social situations as much as possible.