Do people ever overestimate you?

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I have often been told, "I can't read your mind" when, in reality, I felt as though I was the one who had to read other people's minds. I have trouble with people whose teaching styles are reactive, rather than proactive. People have said, "But you mastered some big things." This is because there was a specific list of objectives and I knew exactly what I needed to do to meet them.

As a child who seemed 'intelligent and well-behaved', teachers constantly overestimated what I was capable of handling. But as time went on, it became more and more obvious to everyone that I would just fall apart and break down constantly. So by age 13 or so, in a world where Asperger's was not yet recognized, it was understood that I was this fragile, delicate snowflake that academically performed way above my grade level, but in other ways was an absolute dysfunctional mess.

But I wasn't causing any huge trouble for anyone, so teachers chose to turn a blind eye to it, and kept giving me straight A's, even though I was typically out sick 3 days a week, from utter burnout and exhaustion.

They did all expect me to one day 'get over' my childhood issues, and go on to be wildly successful in my career, and make them all proud. I still feel guilty that I failed them in that regard.

My kindergarten teacher said I would never be able to do anything, but I had teachers later on who expected me to succeed. I did a lot with my life, but nothing really special. I wound up failing those teachers who thought well of me. I think they would be disappointed if they could see me today.