sparklegirl wrote:
b)he specifically told my sister years ago that if he ever started acting strange in his later years, to please PLEASE tell him
c)he's always been someone who respects and honours truth and honesty above all else besides compassion, and I respect him enough to tell him the truth. If everyone else in the family knows, I think he should know too so we're not all talking behind his back
d)he's a very fit & active 78 year old with a lot of life to live still. Self-awareness is important to him, and I think this knowledge (although it may be a shock at first) could significantly improve his quality of life.
I need to address the situation in some way because it's gotten to the point where he comes across to people as a really rude, arrogant jerk when actually he's a very sweet, kind, gentle person...it's causing a lot of problems.
Any advice or help you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.
Lots of thoughts occur to me reading your request for help.
point B particularly, where feedback was asked for by your father.
As others have observed, none of us are qualified to say - He has aspergers / Autism etc.
Jumping in and giving a diagnostic label like Aspergers, Autism, Demetia etc may not end well.
It is worth noting the bereavement and grief can result in some behaviour becoming out of character. Sometimes grief happens in ways which aren't obvious, and in particular the grieving person does not realise they are grieving.
I recall my brother noticing a wee tremour in my mum's hand some years ago and eventually we plucked up the brass face to gently raise it, and found my mum had Parkinsons, which was in the end a good call because it has given her doctors plenty of time to manage it from its earliest stages.
22 Jan 2017, 5:03 am
