This type of liar

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Well, your uncle probably feels like he walks on eggshells now around you, too.

You can blame your focus on the "lying is bad" concept on your brain. Autistic people often apply "rules" in social contexts without judging the big picture. I'm not saying lying is good, I'm saying it's a tricky distinction and not an absolute rule.

It sounds like both you and your uncle have experienced some distress from living together. If you can, it would be a good idea to apologize. If you can't bring yourself to do that, then at least try to calm yourself and avoid this kind of clash in the future.

It's statements like this that make me question if I ASD or not , as to me the above rule appears common sense or good manners

Another aspect of human behavior I dont understand... I also posted on fb we were low on groceries... I had a bunch of people bash me saying we didnt know how to shop!! ! Severely.... But then one of those people comes over and brings us 200lbs of meat and bread!! ! I guess she still loved us, but her previous unkind words made me feel the opposite.

I agree with Bea on this. At most you uncle told a white lie that doesn't harm anyone. Another example would be someone with a weight problem who tells everyone he's on a strict diet when in fact he eats lots of junk food.

I think an apology is due. This is nothing to make a big deal over.

If I was to call out all my Facebook friends when they moaned about something , I would be constantly typing. I don't know your circumstances but it sounds to me that you posted your groceries post to show that a) you have no food and b) you were moaning because you had to something about it i.e go shopping. I don't have anyone in my friends list who would have bashed a post like that so IMO you are not understanding human behaviour , you are understanding the behaviour of a few nasty people. The gift of food sounds like someone trying to ease their guilt and a way of saying sorry without actually saying sorry for their behaviour.