Did your parents ever put you in an institution?

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kraftiekortie
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29 Mar 2017, 7:14 pm

Your mother should have just left you alone.....

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29 Mar 2017, 7:16 pm

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I was threatened to be sent to one because my mother's sister had been institutionalized for schizophrenia and my mother thought I was like her.
I was a very good kid but my parents thought I was babyish and should grow up and forced me into situations where I was taken advantage of and I acted out and they thought I was bad.
So my mother said I went from one extreme to the other and said she wished I was dead than the way I was.

Man that sucks. Do your parents still think of you that way?

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29 Mar 2017, 7:25 pm

Corny wrote:

Man that sucks. Do your parents still think of you that way?

They're dead now but they just thought there was something wrong with me.

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29 Mar 2017, 7:31 pm

Might sound stupid, but since I was about 5 I have always wanted to be sent to an institution so that I don't have to live with my parents. They are manipulative, and continually tell me that I'm deliberately being stupid/selfish/lazy/heartless etc. and that they don't deserve to have a child like me.

Of late, I have noticed more and more the damage that they have done to me as a person, and the damage that they continue to do. Even though I am quite immature in some ways, I am moving out of home and to a different city next year so that I can escape from them. That means finding a job (which I have tried and failed to do) and renting an apartment or similar - completely looking after myself. I don't know if I can do that, but I have no other choice.

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29 Mar 2017, 10:23 pm

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I understand how you feel. I kinda feel the same way. It seems like my grandparents which is who i live with. They always wanna yell and argue at me. Or it seems like I start arguments more with them than other adults. Don't know why but it does. But don't at the same time because I won't be able to see my parents when I go visit them. Which who I like a million times ago. And miss friends at school. But if I didn't like my real parents or have friends. I wouldn't mind being sent. And when fall comes. I'm freaking excited to move out. I'll be staying in a dorm. And finally be gone from all the stress and worries of home.

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29 Mar 2017, 10:59 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Your mother should have just left you alone.....

I agree. Parents should just leave their autistic offspring alone to do their own things.

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30 Mar 2017, 9:30 am

I've had many examples of this, to the point of being beaten for not confirming to social norms as a kid by supposed 'parents'. From being moved out of school to a special school because I couldn't interact with the class, on the premise that because I was non-communicative, not doing homework or playing in the playground, I was dumb. As it was, 20 years later, I can tell you that I found the school classes boring & had read & understood all the mathematics & physics & was figuring out theorem instead. A horrible home life lead to more & more seclusion, distrust & diagnosis avoidance. Cruelty by elders who are supposed to be part of your support network can throw a whole life off course.

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30 Mar 2017, 5:47 pm

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That is very cruel. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. From this and some of your other posts I question the mental health of your family members. It seems like they might need some help.

I don't know if you intend this for me or someone else, but yes. My family does have some mental issues. My dad has PTSD and bipolar. My mom has a lot of traits of borderline personality disorder and insists I have it. I don't know thought, I always hear about people (usually women) were originally diagnosed with that and end up having Asperger's. I had an Asperger's diagnosis since I was a kid, but since I was oh so high functioning, there were really no services I could benefit from. But now my mom is convinced I have borderline personality disorder. I can't have PTSD because that only affects war veterans apparently.

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