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my bf doesn't realize how much it actually bothers me, I've gotten pretty good at playing it off, or instead of getting angry I just look at him and ask what he means, he'll say "oh, right" and explain. If he doesn't realize what AS is, or how you think-even if you have been talking to him for a while, he needs to. He could be trying to just joke, tease, poke fun, and doesn't realize exactly WHY you are getting upset about it.

My bf just tends to forget there is a little bit of a diff between me and his friends But it is getting better. He says now he does it because he just doesn't know what else to do or say sometimes, or is just too used to saying something silly when it gets quiet.

I have been trying to explain to him how it feels for the last hour or so but I am exhausted and I am not even sure if he 'gets' it... maybe it is just hopeless?

He likes me but he keeps confusing me very badly that I do not feel comfortable any more... this is so hard. Its like talking to someone who speaks Russian and no English and I only speak a little Russian... that's how confusing and tiring it feels!

Star

No matter what, I do appreciate all the information and the advise you all gave me. Even if it didn't help in this specific situation, it did help me understand a dynamic that I was not specifically aware of.

It really helped sharing this with you. Thanks!

Star

I think there is a whole other element that isn't being discussed. People who are really into computers and real-time online nonsense have no patience for others that don't "instantly" react to them. I had a cyber friend who was on the computer all the time and didn't have a job. If I didn't immediately respond to her emails, she'd freak and start in on the digs. She had other urban habits that I didn't share and she was fairly "assured" that her way of life was better. What really ticked me off is that she'd get insulting but then claim that I was "taking it wrong" if I asked her to clarify herself and why was she saying these things? She'd back out of her insults. I finally just tired of it.
People really get into the chat, emails, texting and cellphone chatter. If you don't respond immediately than you're ignoring them. I remember getting accused of bowing out of an argument when I didn't quickly reply to a multitude of posts on a forum. That's not even real time.

I don't know the nature of this guy's other "insults" but I'd bet it has to do with speed and computerese.

Hey Rats! It's HCTR, you know, the guy that always steals your names in chat.


This guy sounds as though he's either dense or he simply is a dick.

If he's dense, and he simply won't get that you have this disorder, he probably will never get it.

If he's a dick... run away. Run away far and run away fast.

Yeah it really pisses me off as wel when people are impatient on msn and nudge.
This guy sounds like a regular as*hole to me.
I know these types of guys well.
I donno if your wanting to start a online relationship or whatever with him.
But be prepaired if you become friends with him or anything hes always gonna be an as*hole.
Some guys just take pleasure in constantly insulting and making fun of someone.

He sounds like he is just having a laugh and making fun of you, but not in a bad way. However, we are incredibly notorious for taking things literally, especially if we cannot see the person and they are sending to you via email or MSN. I don't tend to take things literally anymore and can tell the difference, purely because I come from a largely sarcastic family who poke fun out of each other and laugh about it. However, if you do take things literally, you need to do one of two things: tell him this and to stop poking fun at you, or get used to the fact that that's they way he is (and that he is not being nasty or malicious) and either continue to contact him or cut ties with him completely if it annoys you that much.