I need to curb a bad stim.

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Seconding this. It may sound silly to suggest a chew toy, but it sounds like just the thing you need.

Could something like this help? https://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywo ... xscd_e_p20

You mentioned you prefer to bite dogs and cats. Do you like the furry sensation? What about a fur coat or preserved taxidermy mount or preserved tanuki or fox tail? Perhaps one of those "Davey Crockey" raccoon hats?

I think this is a good sign then, at least for your pets. Maybe they understand in some way that you are acting out or are feeling stress. Animals are so good to us. Be good to them.

Your dog could be licking you after you bite not as a show of affection, but as a sign of submission. By biting, you have asserted yourself as the alpha dog in a violent way. Even if they're not avoiding you, they could still be very much afraid; following you and cuddling may actually be a way of expressing a desire to please you in spite of being hurt--and/or in hopes that you won't bite them again if they're "good enough."

Screw what people will think of you/say/accuse you of--biting your pets is cruel. Period. I'm glad that you recognize it as something you need to stop (not merely curb, BTW) and am really glad that you're seeking a better way to stim, but you also owe it to Echo, Lola, and yourself to check this out with a professional, if only to be sure that there isn't a deeper issue to tackle.

Sorry but i cant stop this stim. Its pretty apparent at this point that the need to bite is never going to go away and chewing is helpful for me when i become aggitated and helps me calm down. Before i was biting animals i was biting myself and other people. This stim has been here my whole life and the need is deep rooted. Thats why im finding a way to gravitate towards biting other things other than living creatures.

Ive driven away friends and famiky, ive been shamed my whole life for this, and i feel bad about doing it and trust me- i hate myself for doing it. I feel like a discusting human being who deserves to live life in solitude, if i could stop i would, but i cant. Its just not that easy. I get so frustrated with myself sometimes that it makes me want to kill myself- and ive tried.

How about getting a leather chamois from a car parts place or supermarket? Wrap this around a squidgy plastic chew toy.. Minus the fur it may likely have a very similar texture?

I think a chew toy is a good idea. I have one that I like to hold to stim with and out of curiosity I've bitten it a few times. It's a sqeak toy covered in soft rabbit fur, and my first thought after biting it was that it feels like I just bit a cat (except I'm allergic to my cats so I've never been curious enough to bite one ).

I'm sorry, ZombieBride--I didn't mean to seem callous. I have no doubt that you'd stop if you could, and I'm sorry that people in your life have failed to see that. I guess I was reacting, in part, to an attitude (maybe not even from anyone here) that the opinions of others matter more/most. I just wanted to be really clear, but perhaps I ended up being less so....that's what I get for writing in the wee hours of the morning. I'm sorry.

Please don't give up (on anything). FWIW, I'm cheering for you.

I know you didint mean any harm. Its okay, your advice was still helpful and your opinion was still valid

I don't know how comparable they are, but getting CBT got me to stop self harming by biting, scratching and cutting myself. I sill bite my hand sometimes when I get really frustrated, but managed to stop doing the rest.