Do relationships make Aspies happier?

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My husband and I are moving to a cohousing neighborhood. I personally crave meaningful relationships. While I struggle to form them for various reasons, the ones I have formed mean the world to me and absolutely are the keys to my happiness.

Though i'm happy to fly solo and happy on my own,i know for myself,that a relationship would make me more happier and or feel more complete.

That connection,that has been missing in my life,someone like me in many respects,someone i can relate to and visa versa.

Not sure if i'll find it,in this life time,but i do know,that is what my soul is longing for.

Life would be a lot easier and invigorating with a partner in crime,my other half.

I wish things were different, I wish I can be in relationship, but I can't handle one. I just want to be normal.

What's normal?Wishing for something that's unattainable,because of your differences,is not going to help you,mentally or emotionally.

Just accept who you are and not pine for something else.

I personally don't think i'm made for relationships,hence why i'm looking for someone,like myself.

Perhaps,finding someone like yourself,is a better course of action.

A love feeling connected with someone who gets me. Just talking, going for walks, seeing a movie - nothing fancy. But I've realized that Asperger's may shake that up a bit. I have some friends that I met years ago. And it's like when someone quits drinking, and some of their friends kind of fall away, 'cause they still drink and that's just what they're into. Well, I've been sharing my diagnosis with people and some are really supportive (which is awesome), and some kind of tentative, and a few show near contempt of the whole idea. I think a few of these folks may not survive my neuro-singularity, because I'm tired of hiding and trying so hard to be "normal" around people. It's exciting to me, this diagnosis, and I want to talk about it. I may care about them, but I deserve to be seen and accepted as I am. So, there it is. Damn right.

Peace.

Thanks for the replies.

I think it would be great to have a meaningful relationship with a NeuroTypical who accepts who we are, and who can help us work through some issues that we may have.