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29 May 2017, 8:58 pm

Weak Body: if you have not gotten an official diagnosis, get one. go to the disabled students center. get testing accommodations.

go to an easier school

major in an easier subject

go to office hours

get a private tutor

take fewer units



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30 May 2017, 3:03 am

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
if you have not gotten an official diagnosis, get one. go to the disabled students center. get testing accommodations.

go to an easier school

major in an easier subject

go to office hours

get a private tutor

take fewer units


They will always see me as lazy and that I'm using the disability as an excuse. If I have any job at all, want it to be something I want to do. And there probably isn't any easier major than I study anyway. I've accepted the fact that I will probably end up on the street.



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31 May 2017, 12:27 am

i've run away a lot and the new people are usually not an improvement. i want to live in my car, but i realize that the people outside are loud, rude, thieves, high, etc i'm stuck in one place because it isn't as dangerous for me as the other places i want to run away to.

i keep thinking i should explain some of that, but i just erase more. i'm new at this site, and when i saw your post i was like, oh i'm in the right place. i just wish it was on the corner so that i could run over to it.



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31 May 2017, 5:16 pm

weakbody wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
if you have not gotten an official diagnosis, get one. go to the disabled students center. get testing accommodations.

go to an easier school

major in an easier subject

go to office hours

get a private tutor

take fewer units


They will always see me as lazy and that I'm using the disability as an excuse. If I have any job at all, want it to be something I want to do. And there probably isn't any easier major than I study anyway. I've accepted the fact that I will probably end up on the street.


Is there anybody in your life who might support you (relative etc.)? Perhaps if you could get a relative to talk to your parents about your situation it might make them more willing to understand. Failing that, could you talk to a counsellor at school? They might be able to give you advice or contact your parents about your situation.


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31 May 2017, 5:34 pm

I'm sorry that your going through a tough situation at the moment. I hope you don't actually run away because that's not going to be the best answer to go to. If your parents kick you out then there are programs out there that will help you out. I will be praying for you and hoping that things will become better for you soon.


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01 Jun 2017, 10:34 am

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Your elders bore and reared you. Run not away but to them.


In some circumstances, this may be pertinent. I need to leave my family so that I don't kill myself. Every day they force me to be 'normal', and punish me when I inevitably am not. I cannot 'run to' my parents, as they are the ones who are causing problems for me.




Try as you may, you shall know of life little meaning but at your parents' side.



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02 Jun 2017, 5:41 am

ELance wrote:
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Your elders bore and reared you. Run not away but to them.


In some circumstances, this may be pertinent. I need to leave my family so that I don't kill myself. Every day they force me to be 'normal', and punish me when I inevitably am not. I cannot 'run to' my parents, as they are the ones who are causing problems for me.




Try as you may, you shall know of life little meaning but at your parents' side.

Why?


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02 Jun 2017, 8:15 am

magz wrote:
ELance wrote:
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ELance wrote:
Your elders bore and reared you. Run not away but to them.


In some circumstances, this may be pertinent. I need to leave my family so that I don't kill myself. Every day they force me to be 'normal', and punish me when I inevitably am not. I cannot 'run to' my parents, as they are the ones who are causing problems for me.




Try as you may, you shall know of life little meaning but at your parents' side.

Why?


It's pretty hard to stay by the side of a parent or parents who can't and won't accept you as you are. If people can't run to their parents, they shouldn't have to.


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02 Jun 2017, 8:32 am

Oh, mum....you hate me as I truly am....I love you! :roll:


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02 Jun 2017, 9:01 am

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At this point, I don't care if I'll become homeless anymore. I practically already live like that anyway. I just can't keep up with the society. I can't meet the standards. I want to live peacefully, without s**t always happening to me or not live at all...


I totally relate to that. At this point in my life, there are times when I just want to give all my stuff away, sell the house and give all the money to my sister or anything along these lines, then live as a vagrant for the rest of my life.

This thought crosses my mind very often. There are weeks when I almost can see that happening.



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02 Jun 2017, 10:09 am

FandomConnection wrote:
Is there anybody in your life who might support you (relative etc.)? Perhaps if you could get a relative to talk to your parents about your situation it might make them more willing to understand. Failing that, could you talk to a counsellor at school? They might be able to give you advice or contact your parents about your situation.


My relatives are even less understanding. And I'd never drag strangers such as counselors into my business. My whole point was that I'd probably live a better life as a homeless than pretending to be normie. It was more less just a rant.



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03 Jun 2017, 8:34 pm

I live in fear that a bad dream I had at the beginning of the year will come true: that I will be forced to leave the house forever and be taken to a nursing home, and nobody will ever visit me. Everyone can pretend I never existed.



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04 Jun 2017, 1:37 am

I wanna run away too. :lol: But for different reasons... Almost the opposite of the OP's reasons even. :|


Why those who are in need are deprived of?
And those who do not have the need ends up getting it?? That's how I see it though.


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04 Jun 2017, 3:24 am

ELance wrote:
FandomConnection wrote:
ELance wrote:
Your elders bore and reared you. Run not away but to them.


In some circumstances, this may be pertinent. I need to leave my family so that I don't kill myself. Every day they force me to be 'normal', and punish me when I inevitably am not. I cannot 'run to' my parents, as they are the ones who are causing problems for me.




Try as you may, you shall know of life little meaning but at your parents' side.


I respectfully request that you do not attempt to advise me without really knowing my situation. I do not intend that to sound harsh; I am not good at tempering my expression.

As it is, I am very scared to be in the situation in which I find myself, and conflicting advice does not help this. I am quite terrified to move out and possibly have to support myself fully, but simultaneously know that I must leave for my own emotional/psychological wellbeing. To stay with my parents is to be punished for being myself, and to continually be required to pretend that I am 'normal'. I believe that each person can give their own life meaning by establishing a purpose and living in pursuit of that, and being forced to sacrifice my personal integrity on a daily basis is quite detrimental to this process.


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04 Jun 2017, 4:08 am

FandomConnection wrote:
I respectfully request that you do not attempt to advise me without really knowing my situation. I do not intend that to sound harsh; I am not good at tempering my expression.

As it is, I am very scared to be in the situation in which I find myself, and conflicting advice does not help this. I am quite terrified to move out and possibly have to support myself fully, but simultaneously know that I must leave for my own emotional/psychological wellbeing. To stay with my parents is to be punished for being myself, and to continually be required to pretend that I am 'normal'. I believe that each person can give their own life meaning by establishing a purpose and living in pursuit of that, and being forced to sacrifice my personal integrity on a daily basis is quite detrimental to this process.


Why do you even bother responding to him? He apparently only sees his truth.



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04 Jun 2017, 4:31 am

shadowtag wrote:
weakbody wrote:
I am not capable of finishing school. If I don't, I will probably get kicked out of house. :mrgreen:


Have your parents themselves threatened that?


My parents were more tolerant than I thought when I dropped out of uni. I thought I'd be homeless too, I really did.
They didn't like it, but they dealt with it. Paying rent definitely helps lol.
Establishing an alternative plan is important.
Try and show them that you're going to do something else, if you're able.

For me this meant getting a job before I officially dropped out. It was a sh***y job, not AS-friendly and I hated it, but it showed them I still had some sense of direction and financial responsibility. In the end I got a better job, and started studying from home.
It depends on your own abilities, of course, but if possible I would say keep yourself busy: always do something, and try and think about what you want to do next (and how to get there). Your parents will likely be more understanding/accepting of that attitude, especially if they're not willing to acknowledge and support your autism.