How would you personally respond to these quotes?

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"Don't ever let people tell you that you can't" - Personally I don't mind what other people say as long as I stay positive. The more you are successful the more they will bash you. Kill them with kindness instead.

As others have said, it's an explanation.


It never has.


They never have, because they do not see autism on me. And when i tell them i have it, they say "nooo, but you seem so normal". And even if they did say that, i still wouldn't care.

In short, you’re calling me a lazy, no good for nothing motherf!cking sonofab!tch!



In short, there’s nothing wrong with you. Grow up, buttercup, and stop being a f!cking pansy.



Quit being a special snowflake. You’re using autism as an excuse to get out of doing anything. You’re just as useless as the bums and n!ggers on welfare. Just remember the old Russian saying, those who don’t work, don’t deserve to eat.

You beat me to it.

I have very limited patience with people BS'ing me.

Honestly?
I'd think "whatever" in the best case and "f*ck off" in the worst.
Then, I'd reply with the most uninterested "ok" I can produce.
Then, if these sentences are a habit of this person, I'd try not to meet them whenever I can.

This is how I see it: these are not questions, these are opinions. If someone wants to understand, they ask questions. If they don't want to understand, then they won't understand, and it's no use explaining. The best thing to do, if we can, is moving on and giving such sentences no second thought.

My therapist told me "usually people don't understand each other, it's just that they don't know, so they can't be upset by it". So it's not that they understand everybody but you. They just have the illusion they understand everybody and this illusion crumbles when they talk to you. They try to impose their illusion on you but it doesn't work because you're not an object, you know the meaning of your actions, thoughts, words.
Until they realize they have to be humble and courageous enough to ask questions, give them no answers because they don't deserve them.

Seems your therapist has a low opinion of people, though that opinion might not be all that far from the objective truth, for all I know. I still don't understand why I hardly seem to meet any jerks these days - I'm often freshly amazed at the low standard of behaviour that so many WP members report encountering, and I have difficulty understanding how they find them so readily. I'm something of a recluse, though not without friends. Maybe I've just become so adept at sniffing them out and removing them from my life that I don't know I'm doing it? And I suppose not having to subject myself to bog standard teachers, caregivers, health professionals, benefits officials and dodgy family members gives me an advantage.

I wouldn't let it get to me.

'You use autism as an excuse for everything.'

OK.

'Don't let your disability define you.'

OK.

'Don't ever let people tell you that you can't.'

OK.

Someone saying things like the above really don't know anything about autism.

No one who says anything like these quotes gets anywhere near me. Same with people who say things like "Life is what you make it" and "My glass is half full" and so forth.

I am Autism, and bystanders either get used to it or go away. "I believe in the power of negative thinking" is a very good thing to say to get rid of bullshitters.

'You use autism as an excuse for everything.'

I try my best not to use the autism card, but sometimes there are situations where I just need to let them know.

'Don't let your disability define you.'

I don't let it define me, but autism is a very big part of my life that affects nearly everything I do and perceive.

'Don't ever let people tell you that you can't.'

Can't what??

When I was dx'd three years ago . . . I was actually given an Autism card!

My conclusion to this would mean 'I don't wanna know, and I don't care'. Therefore, you don't need to know and mind your own business. Be cruel as you could be, because...
I'd do the same to you. Don't let your struggles and suffering as an excuse for everything either.


First and foremost, I'm a human before anything else. So are you.
And I hope your ignorance and the lack of understanding doesn't define you either.


Same goes what people told me what I 'should' just because I 'could'.


That is, if I ever have the patience to answer these questions to begin with.

"You use autism as an excuse for everything"
"Would you tell a blind person they use their lack of vision is an excuse for everything?"

"Don't let your disability define you"
"I see my disability as just a different way of seeing the world"

"Don't ever let people tell you that you can't"
"I tell myself when I can't because, like all humans, I have limitations"

I would blend it all together and say:
"Wish I could wander through life as with nary a care to be,
And have naught a thought about all of these things of which wary I be.
But alas it is not but not for naught, you live in a sheltered world of fantasy,
Without a care or a concern for those that differ from you be
Perhaps you should before opening your mouth I would hope you would
Take a second to see, exactly how idiotic and asanine that your suggestions be
And maybe you will see, that while you skip through sunshine
that what I do see is a fairly bleak and dim visage that you will never see.
So portend not of preaching and remedy, as you simply cannot see
that what I experience would be
Locked in an iron maiden needles inches from my eyes,
speakers blaring unendingly,
and a light that cannot be shut out not matter how I try not to see.

When you have experienced these things then you may talk to me.

'You use autism as an excuse for everything.'

-Were you ever aware that that's a really offensive thing to say?

'Don't let your disability define you.'

-Thank you for sharing. What's your own personal experience of disability?

'Don't ever let people tell you that you can't.'

-I ignore unsolicited advice generally - being an adult I make my own choices.