ASD partner “not good enough”

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I was over-sensitive when I wrote that. I still feel that she really doesn't "like" me that much in many ways.

But, in some ways, she values me as a friend.

It is sort of complicated.

I did lots of useful things for her; and she did lots of useful things for me. We helped each other a lot.

Right now, though, our relationship is in "friendship" mode.

What I want, really, is for her to find someone more suitable.

I’m not saying I’m a bad guy. I’m saying she should find somebody who is her type.

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.

In my case, it would be shorter to list who hasn't....

People who have told me variations of "I've wasted my life with an adult version of a 12 year old."

2 psychiatrists
2 internists
3 therapists
2 ER doctors
All of my blood family
A few friends
Random strangers
Coworkers

The worse was the hospitalist who told me my husband was the weirdest person he has ever come across. Mind you, this hospitalist also covers the locked inpatient psych unit and the bulk of the patients have heavy duty mood disorders.

No one is supportive, and if I even voice a minor complaint about my husband, all I ever get now is "Leave" or "Get back to me when you dump his dumb ass."

My complaint may be more small talk than anything else, but everyone drops the nuclear bomb as a helpful suggestion.

Or I get judged as a flawed human because I tolerate my husband's Aspie-ish behaviors. In the line of "She don't love herself."

I'm more free to talk about my relationship online than I ever could in real life.

And obviously I think my husband IS *good enough*.