Eye contact-such a tricky one

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I deal with this somewhat. The whole "the eyes are the windows to the soul" idea and the phrase "reading someone's eyes" and whatnot sure indicate that some people are seeing a lot more when they're looking at someone's eyes than I am. All I see are mostly white balls filled with gelatinous goo. (I don't know if it's gelatinous. Leave me with my delusions.) But, for the record, I'm not convinced that people who think they can read eyes can do it -- my dad can't read me at all, even though he's convinced he can (which led to considerable ugliness when I was younger).

Intellectually, I don't believe people can figure out what I'm thinking by looking into my eyes. I think the evidence is strongly against it. But I still worry that it's possible or actually happening.

I just point my eyes at the other person's forehead, and then just concentrate on what they or I'm saying. To this day, I still have no idea why (normal) people make and keep eye contact with each other. When I look at someones eyes, I just see their eyeball and since I don't know how long to maintain eye contact for, it just ends up being an awkward experience if I try to keep eye contact with them.... It's like I have completely lost out on this eye contact communication (or whatever it is) that normal people experience. But it doesn't bother me (and doesn't seem to bother most other people), and most my friends just describe me as "swishy-eyed <insert name>!". Also, I think people sense that I have "aspergers" once they get to know me and just never bring it up.