08 Nov 2017, 8:47 am
08 Nov 2017, 11:32 am
Zaarin wrote:
I'm constantly baffled by just how much NTs can talk without saying anything: stating the obvious, meaningless pleasantries, small talk, repeating things they've already said, redundant instructions, unsolicited explanations, imprecise wording, circumlocutions... 
It baffles me too.....well no it doesn't really cos I'm too busy trying to keep my temper in check as the red mist is descending right before my eyes. Then trying to act NT amongst all this when really I just want to go mad and tell everyone to shut the hell up. Or just march over there and make the decision for them instead of faffing about exchanging pleasantries.....I mean come on!? Just say or do what needs to be said and get on with things. I am so impatient, it's terrible. Feeling like this all the time then trying to act like Mary Poppins and like my fuse isn't just about to blow. Gosh, how am I going to get myself back to work. It's a daily (hourly, minute by minute) struggle!
xatrix26 wrote:
LostGirI wrote:
It just seemed like a faff and nonsense chatter, whereas I would simply just throw them out, or deal with it and not start a whole annoying and pointless debate (to my mind anyway).
As I sat there with my back to them on the computer listening to their inane back and forth chatter I found myself feeling irate, anxious, stressed and I don't know. Just generally annoyed and uncomfortable.
As I sat there with my back to them on the computer listening to their inane back and forth chatter I found myself feeling irate, anxious, stressed and I don't know. Just generally annoyed and uncomfortable.
I agree with you 100%. I too cannot tolerate NTs and their mind numbing ego-driven chatter about nothingness. They accomplish nothing except to drive up their own feelings of status and ego, all the while simply making a big show and drawing attention to themselves. And all the time they were trying to decide on what restaurant to go to.
Another thing that really bothers me is how NTs are totally dishonest with each other and themselves and everything becomes about their own ego. Even the most unrelated subjects somehow get drawn back to their egos. It's pathetic.
Their inefficiency, mind-numbing lack of vocabulary, fluffy wording, and small talkish jargons.
It also makes me feel stressed, anxious, impatient, angry and sometimes I can become unglued by it all.
Unglued.....that is a good word!
HighLlama wrote:
LostGirI wrote:
I was just thinking about work and if or when I will ever be ready to go back. I was thinking earlier today that I am just not stable and am probably months away from being fit to return. I think the doctor at occupational health was right, but that doesn't take the pressure off me when it comes to keeping my job. I've already been off for 7 months this year so far. Anyway, the reason for my post is I popped into work yesterday to print some stuff off and one of the things was for a meeting I have with HR about when I'll be back. While I was sat there there were two members of staff behind be talking and what I would call faffing, going back and forth with their chatter which to me just seemed inefficient and kind of unnecessary. They weren't even talking to me. They were having a sort out of things and deciding what to do with some accessories for the hoists we use. Whether to throw them out, find a needy person or whatever. I don't know. It just seemed like a faff and nonsense chatter, whereas I would simply just throw them out, or deal with it and not start a whole annoying and pointless debate (to my mind anyway).
As I sat there with my back to them on the computer listening to their inane back and forth chatter I found myself feeling irate, anxious, stressed and I don't know. Just generally annoyed and uncomfortable. It reminded me of what it is like when I'm at work in the main department and around my colleagues. I just thought to myself yesterday I can't take this. But today I am thinking of it some more and thinking if I can't even cope listening to two people have a conversation like that which doesn't even involve me without stirring up a lot of feeling in me then how and when am I ever going to go back to work. It made me realise that actually, I am probably still in pretty bad shape. Am I making sense. Is this how it is for others and is it ASD related or is it because I'm depressed, or anxious or what. I know I felt stressed and anxious sitting there thinking OMG, this is what I am going to come back to when I'm at work again. I just don't know what I'm going to do. How can I get over or around this? Will medication help?
Sorry for the long post and a million questions but I really do wonder what is going to become of me
As I sat there with my back to them on the computer listening to their inane back and forth chatter I found myself feeling irate, anxious, stressed and I don't know. Just generally annoyed and uncomfortable. It reminded me of what it is like when I'm at work in the main department and around my colleagues. I just thought to myself yesterday I can't take this. But today I am thinking of it some more and thinking if I can't even cope listening to two people have a conversation like that which doesn't even involve me without stirring up a lot of feeling in me then how and when am I ever going to go back to work. It made me realise that actually, I am probably still in pretty bad shape. Am I making sense. Is this how it is for others and is it ASD related or is it because I'm depressed, or anxious or what. I know I felt stressed and anxious sitting there thinking OMG, this is what I am going to come back to when I'm at work again. I just don't know what I'm going to do. How can I get over or around this? Will medication help?
Sorry for the long post and a million questions but I really do wonder what is going to become of me
Sorry you're going through all that. I can definitely relate. 90% of people in my office chit chat like that all day, and it's very distracting. Between the lights above, the computer light, and all the noise, it's very hard to concentrate, even though I have headphones. I think the hard part is you can struggle while trying to work through all that, and look like the worse employee if you have difficulties, while they make friends and do very little work.
You are so right. That's what I have never understood my whole life. You work your butt off and are good at your job yet it's the chatterboxes who drive you mad and don't seem to do a lot who excel.
underwater wrote:
A couple of things:
I relate a lot. I'm not very sound sensitive, but my problem is rather that I have no filter, and I take in everything. I suspect that this is more common among females on the spectrum. Is this the case for you? Do you have both sound sensitivity and no filter?
Also, I think you are under a lot of stress due to the PIP affair, which is negatively affecting your mental health.
Does any of this make sense to you?
I relate a lot. I'm not very sound sensitive, but my problem is rather that I have no filter, and I take in everything. I suspect that this is more common among females on the spectrum. Is this the case for you? Do you have both sound sensitivity and no filter?
Also, I think you are under a lot of stress due to the PIP affair, which is negatively affecting your mental health.
Does any of this make sense to you?
I am very sound sensitive, I feel like I hear everything and I cannot cope. I'm not sure what you mean about having no filter though. I also can't cope if there is too much going on around me, whether that's noise, people, movement or whatever. I can't even have the TV on while I'm on my laptop. I don't often watch TV. Maybe 1-2 hours a day if I am able to concentrate and relax. I can't read a book or focus if I hear ANY noise which I find really frustrating. If that's what you mean about filters.
Yes there is the PIP affair but the main reason I'm so stressed is because I've just split up with my boyfriend and right now he wants nothing to do with me. He won't speak to me and doesn't even want to look at me. So I am feeling super raw, upset, stressed and all that jazz. The PIP is a distraction, and this forum. People will be getting sick of me posting ha
08 Nov 2017, 11:43 am
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