People who break their promises.......

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In the system, I see a lot of administrators and staff who seem to just lie. It goes beyond breaking promises, they seem to just break all of their word. They say to me and other 'clients' whatever they think will keep us happy and non-complaining, then go ahead and do whatever on earth they want. And they get away with it; it seems like even their complaint systems are set up to favor professionals over disabled people (except a few "professional disabled people" who get treated better than the rest of us, and then get confused about it when the rest of us have complaints about a system that treats their tokens very well and the rest of us very badly).

It is taking a lot of getting used to, even after ten years in the system (in various definitions and forms of "the system"). I know intellectually that these people lie, and that they do it all the time, and that there's no way to know when they're telling the truth and when they are not. It is hard to keep that in mind while trying to process their language. They will say something to me and I'll take it at face value because I don't have the mental energy to process any more than face value. Then I get screwed over, over and over and over again. Even if I spend the energy trying to figure out which part is true and which part is false, I can't differentiate them, and if I were to assume all of it were false I wouldn't get a lot of things done that I need done. So I keep being in this position that reminds me of the hobbits in Lord of the Rings where they have to trust Gollum even though they both know that he's as likely to try to kill them as he is to try to help them.

The telephone is an instrument of POWER and people use it to demonstrate their power, popularity and control the status of others. It seems to me that you tried to have control of the situation and the other person took control away from you - these sort of games go on all the time in telephone world. Text messaging prior to calling could seem a bit excessive to someone and that may be why they 'stalled' you.

I remember when 'call waiting' came in and my best friend put me on hold when she had another call come in, ugh. That was one of the final nails in the coffin of our friendship.

I detest the telephone. These days I never have it plugged in, I just leave the line connected to the computer and any calls go thru to an answering service. I've never had a cell phone, the whole culture of it creeps me out.

The only thing to know about the phone is that people only call when they WANT something.

Last edited by Postperson on 19 Jun 2005, 10:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

It's a Southern US expression, I really didn't expect anyone to know that.

Is this a joke?

Funny - I thought that myself at the time.... "Is this person having a laugh?" I asked myself..... And then they just kept going on about getting their sodding soul massaged all night..... Its just a pain that never ends......

It was better in the old days when you could assassinate people by calling them up and pouring water down the phoneline to electrocute them...

SOUL massaged? have you got a hearing impairment, or what?

I hate call waiting too. I have a couple friends who put me on hold to take another call and it drives me nuts, however they put other people on hold when I call so I suppose it's fair enough.

My cell phone has standard call-waiting. I never put someone on hold to take another call. Personally I think it's rude. Plus, knowing me, I wouldn't be able to have an intelligible conversation with person #2 because I'd be focused on nothing but getting rid of them to get back to my original conversation. Or else I'd start talking to them and completely forget about person #1.

I like my cell phone, however I think it's ridiculous how people enslave themselves to the stupid things. Whenever I'm out with people and my phone rings, they act appalled if I don't answer it, and ask why I would do such a thing. I say "Because I don't feel like talking on the phone right now." and they don't seem to be able to grasp the concept. If I'm rude for not dropping everything and immediately talking to somebody because my little plastic box is ringing, so be it. That's why it has voice mail.

Hear, hear. I keep mine shut off most of the time, because I don't care to be "available" 24/7, for whomever... Feh.

I always give people the benefit of the doubt. But simultaneously i'm careful so as to not put serious responsibility on unreliable others. So if it is something trivial, and i'm done even a slight wrong, i feel much better assuming that the other meant well and did the best they could.

I keep my expectations of others low. Less disappointment that way, I've found.

That's the same with me, Sin Sister.